L: I think this is working! I need to... Okay! We now have a public livestream event going, and... the Hangout is all set up. So, I'm gonna check things here, make sure that everything's okay, and then we'll get started.

Map.

The livestreaming platform is always really hard for me to navigate, so I think that's why I haven't been doing these very often. It's...[noise] a little challenging, but we're gonna do it today, 'cuz what we have going on is really important.

A few housekeeping things here: I need to take this link and share it with people so that if they aren't subscribed to Sexplanations and waiting for this to all happen, then they'll have it. So, bear with me for a moment.

if you could get the chat going, put comments in the description, and invite people, feel free to share the link yourselves, and then we'll get going here in about three minutes.

You can watch me do this. I just selected the link that's in the web address line, and now I'm going to go to... let's see, my personal Facebook so that I can hang out with my friends and family. [typing] Live streaming! I'm gonna put it on Sexplanations' Facebook page - it's called "Sexplanations with Dr. Doe," it has me wearing the "vulva hoodie," as my friends call it, with a magic wand vibrator as the thumbnail-avatar kind of thing. So, let's do that.

For the next three hours we are going to do this, and that is why I am wearing this Care Bear onesie and in my bed because it's Sunday afternoon, and there is no place I can think of being more comfortable in my home than in my bed. So, that's how we're going to do this livestream.

Thank you, all, for being here, by the way. My name is Dr. Lindsey Doe, you can call me "Lindsey," I am the host of Sexplanations, also a clinical sexologist - a doctor of human sexuality. I've taught at universities for a long time and had a private practice for a long time, and now this is my full-time gig is to free sex education online for people. And now, we're going to go on tour for four-five-four-five - as long as we can, actually.

Taking sex-ed to public libraries, public parks, people's parking lots, etc. We're just going to deliver it in person, and that is all being done as a volunteer project. So, the people who helped for the website, and the marketing, and coordinating our budget, and our vehicles, and my -

- work as an educator, and my partner's work driving - like, we're all just giving because it feels important to be of service.

So, if you have the ability to support us on Indiegogo and Patreon - and I'll put links to that below after I'm done uploading these notes - that would be great, because that means that in addition to working without payment, we are also having to cover our expenses on top of that: helping out with gas, and my dog - who will maybe come kiss me later on the cheek not on the mouth - will need care while we're gone... What other ways can you help... Help with affording the RV, where we're going to live for the next while, and...

Let's see, I'm gonna post this on Twitter now. [typing] "Live. Streaming!" Boop! So, that's all very exciting.

Again, if you do not have money to support us or don't feel like that is an important investment, you have money but you want it to go elsewhere, that's cool. There are lots and lots of ways to support Sexplanations and the road tour that are not financial, and one of the biggest - one of the reasons I'm doing this livestream today - is getting the word out so that there is an audience for us to talk to when we show up in Spokane, Washington; Coeur d'Alene and Eugene - I'm trying to think of all the places that just plan to go because we're driving through them.

So, if you can let people know about the tour and get excitement built, that would be really awesome. So, one of the things I came up with this morning and getting ready for this event here is - I'm also gonna do Tumblr, here - is giving us a way to vote for places without paying for ballots.

So, if you're not familiar at all with the Sexplanations Road Tour, it is a tour that we're doing for free. So, we will show up in locations, there's no ticket price at all, it's free for people to attend to come see me do a Sexplanations Live. And I want to go to places where people need sex education. So for every single donation that is made through Indiegogo and Patreon, people get -

I just realized something here... like, going through Tumblr and all of these and not paying attention to the stream. You can all hear me, right? Everything is all good with the stream? I'm gonna trust that it is because nobody is saying anything in the comments, and go back to Tumblr and keep posting.

But! What I'm saying is that for every donation made to Tumblr- ha! To Patreon or Indiegogo, the Sexplanations Road Tour pages in particular, you'll get a ballot. And on that ballot, there are options to choose two locations where you'd like us to go, and that can be anywhere in the world, it doesn't just have to be in the U.S. The road tour portion is in an RV, and we will be driving around, and we will be doing a lot of stops in the U.S.

But I will also be able to come anywhere in the world if you invite me. So I will be going to Croatia, Slovenia, Montenegro, Canada, Mexico, UK, Ireland... Italy, I think. So all of those are gonna happen anyway because I love travelling. But if you want me to go to other places, there are options to do that; we can be bought - there are levels of support that you can give at or recruit people to give at, which allow us to go all over the world.

So, for every donation, you get a ballot. You can choose two places that we go. Maybe it's a place that you really care about for personal reasons, like, "Ohmigosh! I wanna get a selfie with Lindsey!" Ohmigosh! I wanna get a selfie with you! We can do that.

And then the other place you can put on there is someplace that you don't live but you care about being sex educated, so. You know. What comes to mind are a lot of the counties and states that mandate "abstinence-only" sex education... Should we call it "sex education?" I don't think so.

So, "abstinence-only" programming, and in that case, you might want to send the Sexplanations Road Tour as an opportunity for people in that area to get sex education, because for people who are sexually active, a lot of us end up sleeping with somebody who has been affected by abstinence-only programming and shaming around sexuality, and so, I think it'd be really cool if we could help each other out and have this kind of hydraulic lift of benefits.

Okay. So, let me refocus here, 'cuz I want to make sure that anybody who wants to be participating here at the livestream is, so I'm gonna post this on Tumblr - I think we've got Tumblr, Facebook, Twitter - those are the places that I'm primarily at.

So, if there are other places that you want to get this livestream posted, please just select the link, post it on your Instagram, Snapchat, your Facebook pages - that would be great.

Okay, now I'm gonna come to a thing - get some water here. My dad made these glasses; I wanna show to you. It has The Little Prince engraved in them; each glass has a unique Little Prince character on it, they're so great. Okay, so - I haven't telling my story, oh gosh!

Okay, so - what I was saying is that you can get votes by making donations, but because right now the importance for me is the participation aspect of this tour, I came up with a way for people to place votes that is not financially-based. So, here's how this is gonna work:

This video - I'm gonna test this out... "Testing." Yes! Allows you to put comments in the description-, er-, below the description. So people in the chat are talking, but I need a permanent place for "locations" to exist. So, for example - I'm going to delete this comment - delete!

If I really want to go to Knoxville, Tennessee - I want the tour to go there - then I'm gonna put "Knoxville, Tennessee" in the comment of this video, and then anyone who supports me going to Knoxville - for example, maybe I have a bunch of friends in Knoxville or a church group or something like that, and I'm like, "Hey, look! There's chance that Sexplanations will come to Knoxville if we can get all these upvotes."

Then, we just get those people to give upvotes and the more upvotes that a location gets, the more likely that people are to go there. The thing is here, I only want one comment per location, so if you want me to go to Austin, and THIS person wants me to go to Austin, this person writes it first, THIS person would benefit themselves in the situation if they could go through the comments, see if "Austin" exists.

You can do a ctrl-F or an apple-f, I think it works in the comments, and that brings up a search bar, and then you can type your city, and maybe someone else has done it. If you make a mistake - no worries. But it would be better if all of the Texas-ones are in the same place. Just push "like." And then we'll accumulate votes that way for certain places.

So, you've heard me talking about this, but I don't see any comments. Can somebody make a comment so we know whether or not this is [laughs] working? Does it only let me do one? All right. While we're waiting for that to test, I'm gonna scroll up to the top of the chat here and see what you've all been saying.

Hi! Lots of "hi's" and "heys" and "good mornings" and "greetings from Switzerland."

Let's see, "On Halloween," per David D's question, "what are you going to be?"

I don't know yet, but I'm going to be in L.A., which is really exciting for me. Missoula, where I live - Missoula, Montana - is a low-population place, and we have a couple things going on: there's, I think it's called the "disco bloodbath," which is a huge disco party; there's a haunted house, there are events there; there's Rocky Horror Picture Show is going on for these - yesterday and today-, or yesterday and the day before... Anyway! There's a lot to do here, but it is not on the scale that I imagine it's going to be in L.A.

So, we get in very early in the morning on Wednesday, and my hope is to go to the beach, so if you want to come find me at the beach, I'll be at the beach. And then go to-, there's some sort of Halloween party at a mall or a haunted house at a mall we're considering. And then there's a Halloween party in Hollywood that has 500,000 people! So, I'm trying to be very unconcerned about my costume and very excited about other people's costumes.

But I do have - as a backup - "sexy Play-Doh" outfit. I got it from Goodwill, which is a secondhand store. It doesn't fit great because I have a small body that-, I don't have a lot of curves and it's designed for somebody with more curves than mine, but it's hilarious, right? Because "Play-Doh?" It's so funny, I think it's cute. It comes with a little red beret, I bought long, red gloves, and then it's like a tiny, skin-tight mini-dress that has the "Play-Doh" logo and everything on it. And then I was gonna wear it with fishnets, but we'll see. Maybe comfort's sake? [tugs Care Bear onesie] All right, if you have suggestions, let me know.

I'm gonna look down here - still no comments. Hm. Does anybody have things in the chat about why the comments aren't working? "Yeah I think the comments are turned off before the livestream is formally posted. You don't have comments-, access to the comment section below."

Okay, let me investigate. Hm. I'm afraid to "edit video" while this is happening. But I'm gonna try. Here we go. "Advanced settings." Um? "Recording." It says, "allow comments!" It says, "Recording enabled, maximum eight hours, automatically make archive unlisted once the stream has ended" is not clicked, and then what is clicked is "allow comments." And then it says, "Show all," and "sort by top comments, 'users can view ratings for this video.'" Yeah. So strange!

There is a hyperlink that says, "Learn more," so I went there, and it says, "When comments are turned on for your videos, you can use our tools to moderate the conversation, learn how to turn comments on. Comments are not available on private videos, if you want to allow comments on a video that is not publicly available, post an unlisted video instead." Very strange. Okay.

Well, here's the thing - if it's saying that it can do it, and there's no way for me to alter it so it actually does it -

- unless somebody knows, I'm gonna leave it like this, and then when we end the livestream, just know what I have said, which is that you can vote for locations in the comment and support other people's locations - you can vote for as many as you want. So, if there are a hundred locations posted, you can go and thumb [x5]. Support each other, that would be great.

Okay, so I don't know how to get comments going currently. I'm gonna go back to the livestream, here. (?~20:30) "View unwatched" page. Okay! Let's go back to the comments. Or the, the chat.

Yeah, still not comments. So strange. Somebody has a solution, let us know, because we've got three hours here, well, two and forty minutes. I have some things for us to do. This'll be good, I'm gonna go through the chat, though, because I want to make sure that there aren't thing that are being said that need attention.

Interesting. It looks like the chat from the beginning is not available to me anywhere. Hm, okay. Well then, I have to go from where I'm at. It doesn't look like the ones from before are there. Okay. "Hi, from England," thanks for watching my channel for years, "comment is off", - it says it's on.

Okay, well, "comments aren't available til posted," so you know what to do. And I'll put in the description and as a top-pinned comment my interest in having you all vote and invite people to vote - please, please, please invite people to vote. Look, I made a map board here; it has foamcore and these little pins, so that if you say a place like Knoxville and you get enough people where it's more visible maybe than other places - or even if it's not. Even if - what's a smaller place on here, this one doesn't have small cities, but I want to go to small cities, and if you invite me, I will show up, I will try, I really will.

Okay, back to the chat. Thank you all for letting me know that the comments aren't available when a stream is live, I'm not Cookie Monster, I am the Care Bear. I think it's "sad bear" - no, what's this bear's name? [laughing] Not "Grumpy Bear,"... I don't know. If you know what the name of this bear is, please let me know.

Let's see. "Advanced settings," I did that, "you can c-," yep [x6]. Okay, so you can chat with each other to recruit votes, so saying something like, "Oh my goodness! I live in Hudson, Ohio, and we don't have great sex education at my school even though I'm going to a preparatory boarding school that's supposed to prepare for life and my future, I don't know how to use a condom, and I don't know- etc. [x3]. Or my classmates don't. I do, because I watch Sexplanations. But it would be great to bring Lindsey here."

And then, you can show people in the chat that that's something you're excited about, and then, hopefully when the comments open up, people will remember, "Oh yeah, Hudson, Ohio," and that person who asked. And then, click [x5]. Or you can make cases for yourself in the comments later and say, "I live in this place, this is what we need, please give me a thumbs-up on this location."

Okay, let's see. "Sink Buddy" lives in Cleveland, and the education is garbage. That's a bummer, but I am happy to come there. My family is in -

- Hudson and Akron, and so, you know, I'll be right there. But there are a lot of places in this country, and so I need to have the community really help me discern what's what.

All right, we've got business to do here, so! I want to share the Indiegogo link here and keep some tallies on it while we're going. I think we're 26 minutes into this; we have made $0 more in, like, two weeks-, than like, a couple weeks ago. There has been very, very little growth - I think it's been at 9% for two weeks.

And that's okay, I don't expect anything from financially from people that cannot give. But it would be really great if people are able to, or know other people who are able to, and are sex-positive and who care about comprehensive sex-education, or you want to give yourself a present for the holidays, or a present for your midterm success, or just give a dollar so that you can make a formal vote - you can do that.

So, I'm gonna cut and paste this link, bring it over to the livestream, I don't know if you can see my comment, so I'm gonna put this into the description. Oo! I'm gonna put it in the chat, too. Boom! There you go; let's raise some money! Here's a link to the Indiegogo - "Indiegogo" - I also want to share the Patreon link, because this has been a way that people who want to give over time are able to do that. So, I'm going to put that into the description of this video as well. [typing] Patreon, save. [clicking] Be on "watch" page. I put that in the chat.

This is fun! I'm so glad that I get to hang out with you, it really gives me anxiety to try and do livestreams, because there's so much tech stuff going on and I'm usually by myself when I'm trying to do all of this, and I don't like disappointing you - but! Once I get here and I know that it's all working out, it makes me really excited to get to talk with all of you and hear how you're doing, even if it's not good, I like hearing that things are going on in your life and you're reaching out to get help.

Okay. Yes, you can bring me-, I'm back in the chat now - yes, you can bring me to Egypt, hello from Detroit-, can I put-, okay, we're going to switch. We're going to leave the map here for a second. I hung a dry-erase board on the wall behind me so that I can write things like "goals that I have" and-, I don't know, we can put all sorts of things.

So, if you-, do you have goals for us, where are we at now? Our current-, so Patreon is at 836 and Indiegogo [laughs], this is a strange way to write. Adn the only marker that I had on me is an old brown one, but it'll work. Okay, this is eight-four-eight-seven. All right, what are our goals? Can we set some goals for this livestream, and try and reach them, and then if you have ideas for how I can appease you [laughs]-, celebrate, I would love to do that.

Let me see, here. It's kind of reflecting off of the-. It's not very dark. It's okay. You know what it is. All right, so -

"Appalachia, Kentucky" - I'm reading some of the chat here - "Can we donate Chaturbate coins?" I don't know what those are. I will not show you my breasts to get a donation of $100. I really like my breasts; I think people shouldn't be ashamed of them, but YouTube is not okay of that, and ny goal is to sex-educate and inform people so that we can create a YouTube or a platform of the future where that is okay.

I would come to India if you paid for it or got enough votes to send me there. "West Virginia doesn't have sex-ed." You can donate all the days; you don't have to donate on one day. I'm really excited for people to be here. "Advice for married couples," there are lots of videos on Sexplanations for you. In fact, I think there's a whole playlist about getting your sex drive back or your sex lives back - something along those lines.

Let's see. There's so much going on here, and I can't keep up with it. So, I'm just scrolling to see if any of you have goals for the Patreon and Indiegogo pages.

"The fetish where you dress up in fluffy costumes" - it's called furries. "It's hard to read the board," yeah, I know it, but I don't know how to-. Let's see how we make that better. Move the dock, move the-... Let's see what we can do, here. [shifts board, laughs] Okay, is that better? There we go - Patreon, $836; Indiegogo, $8,487. Okay, we've got that; let's get some goals going. All right.

Also, there's 436 people watching, which is exciting; thank you all for spending time on your Sunday hanging out. You. are. wonderful.

All right, what else do we have here. Oh, for some reason, when certain people post, it throws off the chat. It's going so quickly! Somebody asked "credit card only" for donations, I'm guessing? And no, you can send checks, you could do PayPal, there's an Amazon store that we're working on setting up, and all of that information is on Sexplanations.com.

So, if you go to the website Sexplanations.com, it'll pull up this screen that says, "Do you want to go to "Sexplanations, the YouTube show that's a Complexly production" or "Do you want to go to Sexplanations Road Tour information?" And you can click "Road Tour information" and it will bring up all data about addresses where you can send checks, or letters, pictures, etc., and information about frequently asked questions, and tour dates which we'll plan very soon.

We just need people to let us know where to go, because right now, between the two platforms [points to board] that we're fundraising on, there are fewer than 200 people total who have made these incredibly generous donations. So, I would like 50,000 -

- people to place votes. And again, one way of doing that is in the comments of this livestream, once the livestream is finished, please feel free to go into the comments section and support each other in where you'd like Sexplanations Road Tour to go. You can also do that by making donations, every donation will get you a ballot for two places to nominate as road tour stop locations.

Maybe in a bit here, too, we'll open it in a bigger way, but Sexplanations' YouTube channel is where the bulk of our audience is. And so, my hope is that with having a video on this - doing a livestream all about the tour - that we can fill up the comments later as a ballot system for collecting votes. I don't know, if you have great ideas, please inform me, because I'm doing the best I can. My job is a sex educator and not a vote recruiter. But I am trying to do both.

"What is holding the camera?" My lap. "What are some sex-positive YouTube-channel guys?" I would say Uppercase Chase; Reid Maihalko, who does "Reid About Sex" R-E-I-D; a non-binary person is Ash Hardell; there's somebody - there are lots of other people. Sex Geekdom has some guy sex educators on it... Gosh, if you are on the list and I am forgetting you right now, my apologies. Please just let us know in the chat who else is out there, and I will verbally plug them.

"Doctor, if you sexualize your livestream, I promise you will get tons of donations, just being honest." [beat] "Maybe we could turn off that light." Yes, maybe we could. I think it-, you can see it now, [lifts laptop], I will occasionally show it. The numbers, I mean. [laughs] The livestreams are so much about me entertaining myself, really. They're just spectacular for that reason.

I'm trying to find out where-, [chuckle] okay, anyway, you can see it, there it is, I'm going back-. Oh, yes! "Watts the Safeword." Yes, that is the one I was thinking of and completely missing - "W-A-T-T-S the Safeword" is a channel done by guys.

Let's see. There's some numbers, "what number goals?" Since no one is giving me-, or I'm not seeing it if you're putting it in the chat, I'm gonna set goals for us. So, if we get to a nice 0-0-0 number, like if we get to a thousand on this one [Patreon], and we get to 10,000 on this one [Indiegogo] - so one or the other - then I will do what's called a "cubing." And that is a psychological game; it doesn't have to be considered clinical or realistic or valid or credible or any of those things, but I have found that it is a really interesting way to get information about a person or oneself that either means something or doesn't. But to me, in my experience, it usually matches the situation.

So -

- if we can make one of these two goals, we'll start with a cubing. And then, once we do that, I'll set up another goal and we'll keep going. If you haven't seen the Sexplanations Road Tour video, we are trying to get to 90,000 here on the Indiegogo. 90,000 here, and with the Patreon, there's no-, this is all just helpful money that's being added to that 90,000 goal. The budget for the tour is much larger than 90,000, but 90,000 is what I'm asking from the community so that this is more of an "us" project and not a "me" project - it's not about Lindsey.

Okay, oh - somebody said we already met the $1000 goal? I was not paying attention. Let me see. I am looking at the Sexplanations Road Tour Indiegogo, and - that would be the 10,000, but I'm starting there - [gasps]. It's almost 10,000! You're all so amazing! Good job, way to go team! Okay, now let me look at the Patreon. It's 836. So maybe that one doesn't track immediately?

If you've made a donation on Patreon since I wrote this, let me know, because maybe that one's not counting. But the Indiegogo one is definitely counting, so that can be what we use as our measure for goals. And right now, that's at 9,885. So, I'm gonna go back here...

"Cubing, cubing, cubing-" all these people want cubing; you know what to do. Let's get some votes in. Oh yes. Okay. It looks like... I don't see anybody having donated on Patreon. Let me know, too, if you make a donation; I'm happy to give you a shoutout on the chat, and if I miss it, my apologies, but I'm trying to scroll through here and give you as much attention as I can.

"At 15,000, you should go to talk to Congress about sex. As long as they can wear the Care Bear onesie." Oh, maybe they thought it was the Sexplanations Patreon, okay. "Check Indiegogo, someone donated over a thousand." Okay, I'm going back to Indiegogo, I'm going to press "enter" and refresh - this is so fun! [laughs] This is so fun, I totally want to do this. It is showing 9,885 still. So if somebody did make a huge donation, ohmigosh, thank you so much to all of you.

My dog is stretching in the bed doing a downward-dog, it's very cute. And also, I think it's counting, so I'm going to wait until 10,000 to do the cubing. Okay, okay, okay, gotta go back here.

"Have I ever done a video on watersports?" I've done one on urine that includes talk of watersports. "Do you think my eyes are too big." [shows onesie's eyes] I love my eyes, by the way. They're very capable of seeing lots of things. "Hi from Denmark." Hi! I don't know Red Dead Redemption II. "I don't see a donation button chat-wise." Me neither! I don't know how to do that. But you can go to Indiegogo's -

- page for Sexplanations Road Tour and you can donate there and contribute to the $10,000 so that we can do a cubing!

"Hi from Denmark," oh yes, I said hi already, and "hi" again. "Show us your dog," when she consents. "Is it possible to receive two perks on your Indiegogo?" Yes, but my understanding of it - and we worked as a team for a long, long time on this - is that you actually have to do one donation at a time. So, if you say, "Gosh! I really want this virtual perk because it's really it - like, all the perks on the Indiegogo and the Patreon are so thoughtful, I cannot wait to give you presents.

If you decide, "Oh, I really want to do the digital package, and I really want to be covered in temporary tattoos that are from Sexplanations Road Tour, you can do both of those things, but you have to go through the whole process of donating and donating again. And my apologies, we weren't able to find a crowdfunding platform that would allow us to do that any differently. So, that's what we went through, and I did choose at the last moment to add the... I think... I'm gonna check before I say this -

If you go to the "sperm donor," which is my favorite perk, it's going to be so cool, to have sperm decals? I think we're going to try to make them so that they're blacklight-, black-lit so that they're more discreet during the day, or rainbow - we haven't decided. And then, I can project blacklight onto them, and then they'll glow. Oh, I'm so excited - anyway! The sperm donor perk, I did add the digital bundle to, so if you get that $150 sperm donor, that's where you get your name or someone else's or a quote or nothing, you can just have a sperm and know that that sperm was on our-, is on our RV because of you, and that this tour is happening in part because of your donation, you will also get the digital perk bundle.

So, yea! That's exciting! Please be a sperm donor! We have eight right now, and I would love to have the whole vehicle covered in sperm. In a load is millions - what is the average load? Lindsey, you should know this, [types] "How many sperm in an ejaculation?" Yeah. "20-100 million."

So, that would-, in my world, if you wanted to put 20 million - a low-fertility load - on the RV, that would be cool with me. We would be a successful ejaculation. You know, even one-thousanth of that would be incredible, so. I will happily have my eight sperm, but it's the one thing that I wish a lot of people would get into, because then, it's also like, "These are my people! I'm not doing this by myself, I have backing. These are actual human beings that support this road tour, that believe in comprehensive sex education - who believe in comprehensive sex education - so. Ah! I would love it so much, and I've thrown in the digital package for you, because I want to incentivize people doing something really cool.

All right, so I've refreshed the Patreon page, and I don't think that it's showing current-, or changing numbers, maybe? I don't know if any of you have done any new donations there, so I'm gonna go back to the Indiegogo here. Maybe some of you bought sperm. That would be great. And...oh, we're getting so close to 10,000! We're getting so close.

While we build that... Oh, 11%! We've gone up two percent since hanging out, that's so cool! We're doing so well! I'll go through some -

- of these other perks so that you can understand them a little bit more. I talked about the sperm donor perk, my absolute favorite: It's gonna be sperm decals or I'm going to paint them directly onto the RV, and I don't know if you have seen my sperm art before, but they're usually really anatomically accurate, and there's some thinking happening about whether or not we make them rainbow colored or white with blacklight ink - it's probably going to be some combination of that, and it is gonna determine how many people do it. And you can have your name put on it or not, and it'll come with a digital perk.

Okay. The next one on the list is to nominate two tour stops. So, anybody who donates $1 or more to the tour will get an electronic ballot to your email address - whatever you give to Indiegogo - and that will have two spots and you can put a place that you want us to go, and another place that you want us to go, or two and double your chances - that's not how statistic works-, statistics work, but you'll get more votes to your place. And then, we will choose from those where to head.

Here's the map, let's go back to the map here for a second. Oh, look at this [show's writing on back of map]; do you remember that episode? Don't know if you can see this. It's faded, but this was from one of the earlier episodes of Sexplanations when I was talking about paraphilias, which are all the "beyond" your vanilla sex forms of sexual attraction. "Nonparaphilic attractions." So, these are the non-ones. [points] These are the ones that are more non-vanilla. [points] And then, there's paraphilias. Okay, good. We've learned something.

Okay, so here's the map. We're gonna-, gotta push this back a little [moves laptop]. You still with me? [traces route] I'm gonna go from Missoula, Montana - which is way up here - down probably over here - San Diego, Tijuana area - back up... We're gonna fly to the Oxford TED Talks out of Colorado, and I'm gonna go visit my brother in Ireland, and then we'll probably come back here and do a bunch of Texas all over there, and then go east, north, west again. So, I would love to do the entire country, and if you vote, then I will know where to go.

Also, on the ballot - since we were talking about that on Indiegogo - if you put in a location that isn't gonna get a ton of votes, so it's low in participation there... there are terms for this in voting systems, and I don't know them. We will still consider those, and/or just take all-, every possible location-, every location that's been put in, and we'll do a kind of a raffle. Even if one person said, "Come to Twodot, Montana," we'll go there, because they won the drawing in the hat. So, I can't stress enough how this really is a way for you to have input on the channel, and where it goes, and the tour, and me, and your communities.

Al right, so let's check in with the chat. [meowing noises] "Knowing that a lot of places you're-," so this is in the chat, this is a question:  "Knowing that a lot of places you're going aren't sex-positive, -

" - do you have a safety plan set for that?" Yes, I do. It was a big concern for the people on the planning team, it was a big concern for the Effing Foundation, the Effing Foundation is a fiscal sponsor, okay, thta's wrong... a fiscal PARTNER for the road tour. 

So, by working with them, it means that all the donations that are made through Indiegogo, I think checks pay-, I think almost every donation that is made through them can be tax-deductable. So, they were also really concerned about our safety, I'm concerned about my safety! Not so much that I'm not willing to do the tour, but yes, there are safety plans.

Let's see. Right. Okay, this person says, "I'll be direct. If I give money to this, I want a guarantee that you won't quit on the tour due to the recent events - an uptick in national list violence. Shrug." That's... interesting.

The thing with that is that if you need me to not quit, like if your money is entirely based on me fulfilling an expectation - that we all have - then, I would suggest not giving the money, because while my intention is to actually go above and beyond what I've said, so - I think we've said 40 stops in four months, and my intention is to go beyond that - I am going to put my safety and the safety of the communities and my partner above any amount of money and any goal.

And right now, too, the money is important because it makes this a community project and it supports this so that I am, in addition to working for free, not also paying for it to happen. It's really about participation, it's about the community saying, "This is what we want, and we will kind of take that risk to say, 'We're going to make this investment, and if it doesn't happen, then we understand.'"

I will say that if, for whatever reason it needs to stop, I think our relationship with Effing Foundation is maybe three years long? Or maybe that's how long-, I think that's how long we have the website for. I don't think that there is a termination date on our websi-, our relationship with Effing Foundation, I could be wrong. But we could stop for six months until shit calms down - or maybe shit gets worse, and then, I can tell you your money is going to be the least of your worries or even more of a worry - and then start again. And/or any surplus stuff that isn't used still needs to go to sex education.

It's really important to us that your money not just be like, Lindsey, [affected voice] "Muahaha, look at all this money!" I don't want that relationship to you. So, that will go into grants for other sex educators to use. Effing Foundation is SO. COOL. And they are basically set up as a non-profit so that people who do things like Sexplanations can get that funded. And so your money is going to go someplace cool no matter what. But if you don't feel comfortable donating because you need a guarantee, then please don't donate.

All right. Let's see, I - oh! Somebody just said, "It's past $10,000." Okay, all right, it is noon, so we're an hour in and we're gonna do a cubing. What I recommend, is since I assume a lot of you are on your computers or if you're on your phones, you're gonna wanna get some sheets of paper or open up a Google Doc or a Notes file so that you can take notes, because this, this is something that's -

- really cool to look back on. And for those of you who are joining us and aren't sure what's going on: Right now we are doing a livestream to encourage people to participate more with the fundraising and awareness around the Sexplanations Road Tour. So, this is what we started out with Patreon - $836, Indiegogo - $8,487, and we're just trying to get more people aware about what's going on.

There are 522 of you watching now, oh - 531, so if each of you could donate a dollar, or after the livestream is over post in the comments a vote for a place that you're really excited about, then I feel like this livestream has been successful.

All right. And we set a $10,000 goal here or Indiegogo, and I said once we get there I would like to do a cubing. So again, if you can, get something to write with or type on your computer, at the top of the page, put kind of the third-grade title stuff: so, your name, the date, the time, the place where you are, you can put, "Cubed by Dr. Doe," - just that information that gives this cubing, today, a context. Because you can do this again and again.

[to dog] Lina! Wanna come up here? You can come up here. C'mere! Hi, hi. [dog yawning offscreen] Yes, you look cute.

All right, so when you have all of that information - name, date, place, time, where, who you're being cubed by - me. [to dog] C'mere, wanna say hi? [dog noises] I think you gotta get a little closer. Come here, come here, come here. Yeah, you're a sweet girl.

Then the first thing that you'll do is imagine a desert. I'm gonna put down my water so that you can see her. [to dog] Come here, come here, come here, come here. Come here! [pats chest, dog noises] All right. So, imagine a desert. You can take notes about what the desert looks like to you. Or just have it in your head. The rest of it is what I do want you to write down.

So, right now we're doing a cubing as part of a present for reaching the $10,000 goal on the Indiegogo. And with that cubing, everybody's writing down information the things in this desert that I want to tell you about. Okay. So imagine a desert, in the desert there's a cube. Tell me as much as you can about the cube. And if you want, you can type some details in the chat, or we can get to that later when you find out what everything means, but this called a cubing, and I'm gonna be silent here for a little while while people write about seeing-, imagining a desert and the cube that's in the desert, describing everything that they can about the cube. [silent 1:04:34-1:06:05]

[@1:06:05] Okay, so I'm going to ask some prompting questions to help people just think about other aspects of the cube that you may not have written down.

So, what is it made out of? Is it on the earth, is it floating? What are the edges like? What are the corners like? How has it been constructed? Is it effected by the elements? Are all the sides the same or do some of them have scratches or maybe different colors or different reflections? Is it solid or is there something inside the cube? What is inside the cube? What are its dimensions? So, is it an itty-bitty tiny cube or maybe the-size-of-a-building cube? Is it breakable? Can you move it? Is it shape-shifting at all?

And I think some of you are arguing in the chat. Please don't argue today - it's Sexy Sunday! [laughs] Cube with us, or if you're bored with the cubing, draw some pictures. [chuckles] Okay.

We're talking about a cubing exercise, so if you want to participate, the first thing you'll do is write down your name, date, place, time, etc. on a sheet of paper or a computer document. Imagine a desert, and then, in the desert, there is a cube. Imagine the cube and write down everything you can about that cube. I'm gonna give a few more minutes for people to make sure they really get everything out about the cube they can. And then we'll do this-, the next object. [silent 1:08:36-1:09:11]

Okay. I like reading your definitions or descriptions of the cube. [laughs] All right. So, we're doing a cubing right now, and what you need to do is imagine a desert, in the desert is a cube, people are sharing about their cubes - in the desert, there is also a ladder. Tell me everything that you can about the ladder. So, write that down on a sheet of paper, or put it in a computer doc, or put it in the chat if you'd like to share. My experience is that people's descriptions don't tend to influence others, so what you imagine in the desert is really there. I'm going to give you a few minutes to describe the ladder, and then I'll come back with some prompting questions.

(silent 1:10:01-1:11:34)

Okay, so some questions about the ladder that might help you think of what it looks like, or, you know, what your experience of it is. What is it made of? How many rugs does it have? How are the rungs attached. Would it give you splinters? Are all the rungs the same? Are any of them broken? Does it have paint splatters? Where is it in the desert? How is it placed: is it on it's side, lying flat, is it buried in the earth or the sand, how deep does it go? How high does it go? Is it leaning against anything? Where is it in relation to the cube? Has it been used before?

So, I will give you a few minutes there to answer those questions, and then, we'll do the next object in the cubing. And if you're all done with your ladder, then please check out the Indiegogo page and the Patreon page and support us if you can, let people know about it, post it in your social media, let people know this is going on, invite them to come cube with us!

(silent 1:13:06-1:13:28)

For those of you who're just joining us, we are doing a Sexplanations livestream to raise money and awareness for the Sexplanations Road Tour, which is a free sex-education trip around the country and planet. And we are doing a cubing to celebrate hitting the $10,000 mark on Indiegogo. And that is just a fun psychological exercise where you imagine a desert, and in the desert you imagine a cube, describe that, and we're on the ladder, which is the second of five objects.

Okay! The third object in the desert is a horse. So, tell me everything you can about the horse. You can write that down, you can put it in a document, you can put it in the chat - everything you can about the horse.

(silent 1:14:26-1:14:37)

(reads chat) Kevin Ramirez, you want a "hi." I'll give you a "hi" for $100. (chuckles) For the person earlier to asked for a "hi" for a nipple, I wonder if there is-, does anybody know if there is... people who do that? If that is legal? What a strange world. (clapping) This is the clap. Instead of a nipple. "My horse is just chilling, eating grass," someone says. "It's a unicorn," someone else says.

"When will you do another livestream? Sadly, I gotta work on Sexy Sunday." I will try and do one-, it won't be next Sunday because I'll be in L.A. travelling, but soon. I will try and do more. Let's say if we can get to $15,000 before the end of this - so, in the next 2 hou-, well, less than two hours - then, I will do another livestream this week.

Okay, so some prompting questions for your cubing about the horse: what is it doing, does it have any gear - so, a saddle, reins, bit - does it have horseshoes, it is healthy, has it been ridden, where is it in relation to the cube? I think I asked what it's doing already, but if I didn't - what is it doing? Does it have any distinguishing features?

(silent 1:16:46-1:17:15)

Someone's horse is running up their ladder. That's amazing. I haven't heard that one before, and I've done this thousands of times. I used to do this with my students when we needed a "snow day" kind of feeling, and I've done it with a lot of clients just as an ice-breaker, and friends, and my kids. So, I've done it thousands of times, and I have not heard of a horse running up the ladder. [vocalizing] Nah (x5).

Okay. I'm gonna check the Indiegogo here, see how we're doing. I think it's fair to say if we can raise another sperm donor, if I can get another sperm donor, then I'll give you the next one here. There are nine claimed right now, and if someone else can give us another sperm for the RV to make it ten, then I'm going to tell you the next object in the desert. And, of course, you can just Google it and keep going doing it on your own, but I want to raise some money here! Some awareness! Some something, so. Play the game with me, please!

Oo! "Rain-On-Me" is gonna donate sperm? Thanks, Rain-On-Me! "Show me your RV, and I'll show you my donation?" Where is my phone, let's see. I was actually thinking about doing the livestream in the RV, but I didn't think my internet would be very good in that, and then I thought about driving the RV to Complexly, which is the production company that puts together SciShow, CrashCourse, Sexplanations, Animal Wonders, Nature League, The Financial Diet, SciShow Space, SciShow Kids - all those different shows - but I wasn't sure if I could get good wifi connection from their parking lot either.

So, can I just show you pictures? And maybe you're being coy and don't mean it, but I will show you pictures of the RV. [chuckles while scrolling]

Sometimes I help my friends with their Tinder profiles, and so there are lots of "hot-shots" on here. Yep, I did a good job with that profile! [vocalizes] There's gotta be a way to see-, okay, there we go.

This is a new-ish phone to me, so I don't know entirely how to... Okay! [shows picture] Can you see it? That's the RV. There's the inside when you first open the door. And I don't know if you can see this, but there's a dinette there that actually turns into a bed, and this is a little chair right when you come in that has a cubby underneath to put shoes and sit, and there's more cubbies - oh, and this is the cabover bed that somebody named. This is what the front looks like, there's the cabover, here's the dinette and the kitchen. Can you see it? I don't know if you can see it.

I got this one because it has the largest countertop of any of the RVs that I've looked at. Okay, here's the layout of the back. So, this is the door here, come in, and there's the bed, and then a bathroom door that goes into the bathroom, there's cupboards there in the kitchen, so there's the bathroom and there's a two-person shower! So awesome. [shows] See? Shower.

There's the bed. That I'm gonna sleep on. Ah! And our refrigerator, and a freezer - so great. I love it so. much. I'm a little anxious about living in it because it's very, very tiny, but it's gonna be great, I think it's gonna be great.

All right. So, moving on! Let me see if we've reached our goal, here. Of a new sperm donor. [higher pitch] (?~1:23:24) Oh, another sperm donors I can get, please! Yaay! Okay! So, going back to the cube -

If you are joining us, we are doing what's called a cubing, and in this, we imagine a desert. In the desert, there is a cube - describe what the cube looks like to you, how it feels, etc - there is a ladder, and a horse, and the third object in the desert is a plant, so tell me everything you can about the plant.

(silent 1:24:00-1:24:30)

The plant is in the desert.

(silent 1:24:33-1:24:59)

Okay, so some prompting questions for the plant: Does it have flowers, does it have leaves, how many leaves, is it a vine, is it healthy, is it in a pot or is it in the earth, or a third option, fourth option? Alive? Dead? What else about the plant... Poisonous? Edible? Where is it in relation to the cube? How tall is it? What kind of plant? Have you ever seen it before? Yeah, just describe its properties the best you can. Are the leaves shiny, are they waxy, are they prickly?

Wish the brilliant botanist was here to tell me how to [chuckles] describe plants. That, or Brit from Nature League; I bet she's totally capable of describing plants.

[reading chat] I am going to visit Croatia. In November. Let's see, what else is going on in the chat... People are talking about their plants - good job. I... Let's see, someone asked me if I'm going to take questions today. I will do a "questions" section. I will. I would like us to get to - okay, so - new goal. [vocalizing]

Where'd the marker go? Eleven. So if we reach, I think I said $15,000, then this is a second livestream. And if we reach $11,000... I don't know, I don't know what you're all looking for aside from nipples. Is there anything else in this life you want besides nipples? It makes a lot of sense. I will tell you a story of a video I wanted to make about nipples.

All right. Can we get another sperm donor, and I'll give you the last object? One more sperm donor! Ready. Go! There are ten claimed, we're looking for eleven sperm donors, and while we wait on that, I will tell you about another perk.

So, for $10, you get my road trip playlist, which I've been thinking about since I made this perk option. I am going to take all the songs that I like listening to while I'm driving and turn them into a playlist, and then I'm going to send it to you as a private or unlisted link so that it's special. For you. For donating $10 - that's awesome! And you'll be able to listen to it and imagine that you're on the Sexplanations Road Tour with us! It'll be really fun!

So, all different kinds of music, be surprised. I'm gonna try and make it really long, because we're going to be on the road for a really, really long time. So, maybe... I don't know... 30 songs? 100 songs? A lot of songs. And I'll keep adding to it throughout the road trip as well, because it'll be what I listen to. Okay, cool. Next one.

$15 gets you a pack of temporary tattoos. So this is one that I've actually been thinking of even prior to Sexplanations being a YouTube channel. I always wanted to make temporary tattoos that people could put on their bodies, like on the mons veneris or mon pubis - that fatty tissue right above your pubic bone. I wanted to be able to put tattoos of, like, the internal reproductive organs and what they look like -

- so you could pretend to be an anatomical model.

Or put things like, "Get a 'yes, please' before entering," - just fun stuff. I think temporary tattoos are really cool, and if you don't want to put them on your body, you can put them on bananas and pack them in people's lunches - it's so cute! So, that was all a pre-Sexplanations idea.

And then, Sexplanations happened and it's been a whirlwind of doing things, and when we were getting ready to launch the Indiegogo page, I spoke with Hannah Hart about her experience doing the Harto road tour, where she went around to different food banks and did volunteer projects that way, and also went to people's kitchens and recorded "My Drunk Kitchen." And she said that one of her favorite-favorite-favorite perks to do was the temporary tattoos. I was like, "Yeah! Let's do it!"

And so, I'm very excited about them. And I want to do them ethically - that's a big thing for me. Also, one of the ideas that I came up with - and I've never talked about this before, but people have spotted in videos is - I got a tattoo. A year ago. It's one that I've wanted, I guess, for a really long time, 'cuz people have told me that I've been describing it for a year.

It's the very first microscope. I don't know if you could s-, there's like no [chuckles] easy way for me to show this to you. [rolls sleeves] Come here, Care Bear. Okay, that is my arm, and this - can you see it? This is the first microscope designed by Antonie van Leeuwenhoek, and this is, from my understanding, a paddle that you turn, and then it screws so that there is a very precise point right here, and then this is where the observation takes place. And the microscope is this size - a little bit bigger, maybe 20% bigger - but that big. [holds thumb and forefinger ~7.5-10 cm or 3-4 in apart]

I saw a replica of it at one of the airports. The airports have such amazing galleries in them! Anyway, I saw one there, and I love it, because it's the first time that spermatozoa, or sperm, were seen under a microscope, and before that, we didn't know what led to pregnancy. And so, this is a big deal. I am not apposed to people becoming pregnant or parents or anything like that. But what I do love [x6] is that we live in a society now where the possibility, not always the option, but the possibility [lag] is there to have sex without becoming pregnant or a parent.

Because that's huge. That allows people to experience a kind of identity and personalit-, not "personality," but pleasure without that as a consequence that they may or may not want. Anyway, it's a really big deal to me. So, in order to do that, for people who are bio-sex male and bio-sex female - and there's a reason why I'm using those rather than "sex assigned at birth" - is infertile, those people are able to have sex for pleasure without get pregnant, because of [points to tattoo] this. This is so cool!

Yeah. Because then, we understand that to block those from an egg, you can use things like condoms. You can create things like the pill. So brilliant. All right. Moving on!

How're we doing on the Indiegogo page? Oh right, that-, I am talking to myself alone in a room; there's no one reminding me that I didn't finish my story, so I have to remind myself that I trailed off. One of the temporary tattoos that I want to send you is this. [points to tattoo] To make a tattoo that is the same as my tattoo. That we can have matching tattoos! But that's just one of many, so if you want to get yourself a special fun gift, that would be awesome.

Right. Did we reach our goal yet? Of another sperm donor? Please? ... Yes. We did. We are at eleven. Excellent. Okay, so now that last thing to imagine for your cubing is a storm. So describe everything you can about the storm, and then I will tell you what this all means.

[silent 1:35:16-1:26:01)

If you're just checking in with us, we are in the process of doing a live cubing, a group cubing. Cubing is just a fun brain exercise, and the way that it words is that you write down your name, place, date, time, etc. on the top of paper or a computer document, and then imagine a desert, in the desert there is a cube - describe everything you can about the cube. Then describe everything you can about the ladder - there's a ladder in the desert - and then, in the desert there's also a horse - describe everything you can about the horse. In the desert, there's also a plant - describe everything about the plant. And then the fourth ite-, the fifth item that we're working on right now is a storm. So, you're going to describe everything you can about the storm. And we're doing this to celebrate raising ten thousand dollars on the Indiegogo.

[silent 1:36:55-1:57:27]

Okay, while you're finishing that up, I'm gonna describe another perk here. So, there's only eleven of these, I guess, with an RV you have to reseal all of the edges... every year, maybe? Something like that. And ours are okay, but they will need to be re-, some of them will need to be resealed. And that sealant is also called "caulk," and so I think it's really funny that you can sponsor a "caulk," and it's-, I looked it up on Amazon, it's less than $20 a tube, so we listed it at $18, and we only need about eleven tubes. So if you want to sponsor a caulk, you can do that for $18 and know that you sponsored caulk for the Sexplanations Road Tour.

Okay. Let's see, what do we want to do here to incentivize us to get to $11,000? Yes, so here's how we'll do this. At 11,000, I will tell you what all of this means for your cubing. What all the things mean, it means we just need to raise three hundred dollars. Super simple. I have seen fundraisers like this raise millions, and I know you have all given a lot - and if you can't, please don't - but if we can raise $300, then I will share with you what all of those mean.

And in the meantime, I'm gonna tell you about perks that you might want to buy for that amount of money, because in addition to going to a good cause of the Sexplanations Road Tour being a free tour to people in areas where sex education is needed - so, all areas - you're also getting things, like the next level up is for $20 and for $20, what I will do is write you a postcard, put a stamp on it, and send it to you from someplace on the road where I'm travelling, and you'll get this handwritten Dr. Doe postcard! And I will get to directly speak to you, which is exciting.

I've also been designing the postcard.

I don't know if I want to just, like, get regular postcards from the gas stations that say, "I'm in Kentucky," [vocalizations] and then write a postcard that is from a gas station, or if we want to make Sexplanations-Road-Tour-specific postcards. So if you have a preference or a good idea about that, let us know. Because my thinking is... well, I don't want to tell you, I don't want to give it away.

Anyway, postcards! And they also come with a ballot so that you can nominate where we go on the tour, you can get two nominations for each donation. $25 gets you a "Road Head Master" official certificate; so the person who designed the website - all the banners and the logos for the Sexplanations Road Tour video, and the Patreon and the Indiegogo - she's going to create this certificate, and official "Road Head" certificate, so that you can feel official in your donation to the cause, and you know, to me, at least, it's really adorable that it's called "road head."

And then the last one I'll mention before we check numbers here again is the totally coolest tote bag. I wasn't gonna do this, and then I was talking to a former student of mine, and she said, "You know what I would really like is a Sexplanations tote bag," and I said, "I can do that for you."

And so, we're gonna make tote bags. I think-, I haven't decided, but I think on one side I want it to be something like the map, and then maybe my face like the thumbnail of the Sexplanations Road Tour video? That would be one side of it, so that you could actually draw on the map all the places that we've gone, or they can be starred or whatever.

And then, on the other side, I would really like it to have this tweet that I love, which is about how abstinence-only shouldn't be called "sex education," because that would be like calling... be like telling people to stay out of the pool and calling that a "swim lesson." And so, I think that that would just be a cool thing to just have a text on one side, and if you didn't feel comfortable having that in public, you could just turn it around and have the map and the Lindsey bag facing outward. But if you really wanted to make a statement about your position on sex education - boom! There you go in all the words! Okay. So, if you want to get yourself a tote bag - forty bucks.

And... let's see. It says, "Imagine a high-quality tote bag with Sexplanations sass. It'll make a statement about how much you value comprehensive sex education and come with some surprise goodies to carry around with pride. So I will [whispers] put some other things in there. It's totally a good one. It's meant for people who want to treat themselves. It's kind of like... Yeah, THE package of Sexplanations goodies.

Okay, let's check here - numbers. I'm gonna refresh the Indiegogo page. We getting closer to 11,000? Oh, we are so close! Okay. Let's see, we have got seventeen tote bags claimed. Maybe some people want more of those. I'm gonna check the chat here really quickly, see if we can get to $11,000, and then, I will tell you what all the items in the cubing mean.

Okay. All right. I'm gonna scroll up because I want to make sure that I'm not missing anything. [vocalizing] Also, I'm hungry; I had for breakfast peanut butter bumpers; it's a kind of cereal, they're these little corn puffs with peanut butter on them. They're like the healthy ver- [chuckles] health-food-store version of Captain Crunch, and they're round rather than the little barrel-sized ones. And I love them.

They're my get-out-of-food motiv- [laughs] get-out-of-bed motivation. I don't like to get out of bed in the morning; my bed is really warm and really comfy, I'm in it right now, and when I need a way to get out of bed, I just think about peanut butter bumpers in my mouth with milk - I'm just like, "Mm! Okay! I will get off the bed, and I will have the peanut butter bumpers in the bowl with milk, mm!"

And then sometimes, I will get the bowl, and I'll come back to my bed [laughing], and I will eat them in bed! So, that's what I've eaten, and I'll probably need to eat more.

[reads chat] Hey, from South Africa! I'm trying not to ignore the chat, it's just hard to stay up with it because it's moving very, very quickly, and it seems like there's arguing happening, and that's not good for my morale.

Okay, so we're raising money for the Sexplanations Road Tour. We're...let's see-, talking to people about their cubes because we're having fun on the livestream, I want to have fun.

[reads chat] Somebody wants me to have a great day - I am. After this, I'm going with my friend on a hike with our dogs. Let's see, what else. People are writing about their cubings, this is very exciting, I can't wait for you to find out what it all means. "Do you get a postcard with the 'Road Head Master?'" No. Because you get a really cool certificate that's signed, and color-, it has pretty-color ink, and it's gonna go into a flat thing, and it's gonna be all nice.

If I make my own postcards, I will put one in there, but I won't send it separately. And also, if you want a postcard, if you want me to write one, you can have both perks; you can go and make a donation, get one perk, and then make another donation and get the other perk, because really - as nice as perks are, I want people to do this because they have the money to give, and they think that the road tour is important.

And if you don't think that it's important, please don't invest your money here. There are lots of other causes to give to, and yeah, perks are awesome and I want to give you presents and reward you for doing something really cool, but I think the really cool thing is that you're donating to a great cause: We're gonna take sex education that people who don't get it otherwise - I don't know how they're gonna get it if they don't know that Sexplanations or any of the other hundreds of awesome sex-ed channels on YouTube exist. They don't have internet access, if they don't care, if they're not interested, or whatever - if they just need somebody to connect with them and hear their stories, and what their questions are and have them answered in real-time by an expert, I don't... I don't know.

I've just heard too many horror stories of how that ends up in adulthood, and I don't want to do that, and so I feel responsible to take it on. But I'm also not... I don't want to be a martyr, and so I'm asking for help and saying, "Hey, community of-," - what do we have - 500-something, "five hundred thousand something subscribers, I've made this content for five years for free; you log on, you get this for free, and can you be a part of giving this to others with me? Can we give it back?"

And if you can't, financially, that's okay. I don't have that expectation. But. If you're watching Sexplanations, or listening to it, then you have the ability to reach others, and that is something that I cannot do by myself. Anyway. Okay.

Let's see. Let's go to the Indiegogo, see how fundraising is going. We have a little less than $200 to go. So, if somebody did a sperm donor and a tote bag, -

- we... Let's see: a sperm donor, a tote bag, and three nominations of tour stops - we'd make our goal. Or a few-, okay, I'll keep telling you about these things.

The "Digital Perk Bundle" -  so what I've been doing to get ready for this is taking all of these cool projects that I have sent to people in emails or I've done or want to do, and put them all in the same place so that you can have them. So, this is-, on here it says a bunch of creative things I've made sent to your email:

ASMR voice recordings, website proofs, livestream links, Monsterbating Masters Coloring Book - a PDF of it so you can print it off as many times as you want - which is really fun for bachelorette parties and sex weeks at campuses, people making copies of those and being able to distribute them, Sexplanations outtakes, screenshots of the location-voting results, digital "Road Head" certificate - so, you'll get one of those "Master Road Head" certificates that's beautiful, colored, etc., but you'll get a version that's electronic.

And then anything else I can think-, just like, random pictures and fun things that you'll just have to play with a look at! Totally worth more than $50! Yeah.

$75 - I'm gonna get some water, here. So, this one - I have lots and lots and lots and lots of sex books. Beautiful sex books. I'm gonna live in an RV for the next four months. So, I think I'm going to rent out my house, and the books need to go someplace. So, I got a bunch of envelopes - 70 of them, so please claim this perk - and I'm going to stick the book in the envelope, probably with some sort of document that says whether or not it was shown in a video, or how I feel about this book, or where it came from, etc., and then send it to you. So, if you would like a book -

I'm looking up here [points above and offscreen] because I, in my room, have this large white bookshelf with all of my Sexplanations books and rainbow [vocalization] back and forth. And it is strange for me to have work in my bedroom, but they're so pretty! They're so pretty. Ah! Okay.

I want to check in on the chat, because I've been talking to myself here. Let's see how the chat is going. [reads] Lots of smiley faces! Somebody's prodding their horse up the ladder. "Dr. Doe, are you aware that this winter and others that follow will be bad this year and progressively worse?"

[Nods] Okay. I'm moving south, and I know that they also have snow and ice and rain and very cold temperatures. That my hope is that it is less than Missoula, which is also in a valley, so it's incredibly cloudy. So, I'm hoping that it's going to be warmer. And also, I want to go to the south, and I think that a better time to do that would be the winter than the summer when it's too hot to be in a vehicle. But, thank you for the reminder.

Okay! [vocalizations, reading chat] "I'm going to take it there. How much do you make, because with sponsors and being a doctor, there is no way you can't afford this by yourself."

I'm not a medical doctor; I'm a Doctor of Human Sexuality. I make no money as a Doctor of Human Sexuality doing Clinical Sexology anymore; I don't have a private practice, and when I did have a private practice, I-, what is it called... subsidized my rate. So, Clinical Sexologists who were licensed when I got licensed - so, that would've been more than ten years ago - we're supposed to charge no less than $150 an hour, and I felt that my community couldn't afford that, and I also wanted to reach people who... I didn't want to give them another barrier! Asking for help about sexuality is hard enough, so financially, I tried to find an in-between space of still taking care of myself but also taking care of them.

Money has never been something that I am comfortable with. When I have it, I try to give it away, I like the-, there's a rule of thirds? Where it's like a "save a third, spend a third, and-"... it's another S-word... "Save? Spend? Share? Give?" Yeah, something like that. So, I try to do that. I can tell you in the last 18 years I've not had-... No, fewer than that - 15 years? Since I was an undergrad or grad school, I have not had health insurance. The amount that that costs is more than what I can justify financially. So, I don't have health insurance, and I pay a fee each tax season to... because I don't, that's a fine, actually.

I'm working on building retirement, but I am not situated like my peers. Sex education on YouTube is not profitable through ad revenue. We have had a great sponsorship-relationship with companies like Adam and Eve and Better Help, Nord VPN did one, (?~1:57:10) Clue did one, (?~1:57:11)Unbound did one. But that's, you know, something that isn't guaranteed, and it helps FOR SURE, but I'm also accustomed to living a pretty low-budget life.

I do get to travel a lot, and I get to travel a lot because people pay me to come do speaking engagements. I would say that I am financially successful, and that my bar for that is also very low. I don't have to struggle paycheck-to-paycheck, and I have hot water that comes out of a faucet when I turn it on. What else can I tell you about finances? I'm grateful, and I could probably do this trip on my own if retirement wasn't a decision that I wanted to consider. Like, if I said, "Oh, yeah. Having retirement, not important. It'll just work itself out."

But. I want this to be a community project. I don't think that that's an unreasonable thing for me to ask.

Okay. [reads chat] "I want to force you to do-," I'm back to the chat now. "I want to force you to drink three liters of water and watch you pee on your legs inside your tight leggings." Okay. I don't want to pee on myself. I will drink water. And please don't force anybody to do anything.

"Unable to picture a storm."
"I'll give $40 is Dr. Doe takes her bra off." It's a sex-ed channel, and I do not object to sexualizing people so long as that is consensual. for example, if I do a video about whether or not it's okay to be sexy, and I put, like, shit in my bra to pump up my breasts, which are sexualized by society, and I wear things that are tiny, and I wear things that are short, and I am specifically, like, um... sexualizing myself - and that is not to say that I'm inviting harassment - I am sexualizing myself.

There is an aspect of consent there that makes that a different environment than this is; I'm wearing-, and it has nothing to do what I'm wearing, but I'm just saying - I am non-verbally and verbally communicating -

- that this is not a space where I want to be sexualized. I want to raise awareness about this, and it should be enough that we want to bring sex education to other people to do that. I don't have to show off parts of my body if I don't want to, I don't have to do anything; I don't even have to stand up if I don't want to! [chuckles] I can just stay in this bed all day.

Okay, going back here. [reads chat] "Do you think you'll be coming to southern California?" Yes, but please vote anyway. "If I'm from a different country, can I still get a postcard?" Yes, you can. "Good luck with fundraising." Thank you. (?~2:00:52) "Verge in Vel Pie? Vote."

"Science shows there are only two genders. You were molested at a young age." This is probably the unfriendly people. That person that people want to go away. Let's see.

Okay, this person says, "WTF is wrong with the people that think Dr. Doe is a sexual worker or something? She just wants to teach people about sexuality." I don't think there's anything shameful about being a sex worker or people thinking that. But even if I were a sex worker, this is not the platform for those... requests? I don't know, I'm very confused about it, because I want to support people asking for what they want. I don't want anybody to feel ashamed for asking. But I also want to encourage people to learn cues and to assess whether or not it's socially appropriate. And yeah, the best way I can do that is to help guide you there and teach you.

All right. [reads chat] Talk to Adam Savage about his custom tool bag. He could design it for you and have it be amazing. Can someone else do that, and they-"... I don't know who Adam Savage is.

"Talk about sex and answer some of our questions, please." Okay, I will. Nobody assaulted me. This person says, "Sounds like you just assaulted her," nobody assaulted me. Let's see... I... These are people talking about tote bags.

Wow, the chat just dumped. Okay. "Looks like we hit 11,000 though," somebody said, right? I'm gonna refresh this, we're gonna learn about our cubing, we've got one more hour to go here. What? Okay we did it! We hit 11,000 and not even with a sperm donor; that's so great! I mean, I love getting sperm donors, but that means that the money came from other places, which is really awesome.

Okay, so here we go; I'm gonna tell you what these things mean, we'll lighten the mood here. The reason why I have-... so... let me reground.

We are doing a cubing to celebrate reaching 10,000 on Indiegogo. This livestream is to raise awareness about the Sexplanations Road Tour. I asked people to write down on their computers, on a piece of paper, their name, date, place, etc., because it gives a context to this particular intellectual exercise. The first thing that you do is imagine a desert, and that works to kind of neutralize the space. I often describe it as ginger when you're eating sushi. You eat a little ginger in between the fish so that your palate is cleansed for each one, or the coffee beans that you have when you're shopping for perfume; you smell them in between to kind of neutralize your nose -  to take you out of the physical space that you're in and put you into the psychological mind game that we're playing. So, that is the desert; it doesn't have a meaning beyond that that I know of.

Then the moderator, me, asked or said, "There is a cube in the desert; tell me everything you can about the cube." The cube is you. So, people often ask me to interpret their cubes, and I don't tend to do that. There is a book, I think, it's called The Cube, and there is a founding person who created all this, and it's all really exciting, but I don't want to do that. So what I encourage people to do is just in their descriptions, replace the word "cube" with "me" or "I," and then read about it on your own and what those things mean to you.

So, for example, if your cube is itty-bitty, really tiny, and almost invisible, then that might be how you feel about yourself. And if your cube is enormous, huge, size of a building, then that might be how you feel about yourself.

I can tell you a story: I was doing a cubing at a sorority house here in Missoula, Montana, where I'm at, and I - I've told this story, so if you've already heard it, my apologies. But there were, I don't know, a lot of people in this room, and I asked them to describe their cube and I was hearing people raise their hands, and it was the first time that I had heard anyone of any gender tell me that their cubes were the size of buildings, or anything larger than ten feet I hadn't hadn't heard before. And multiple people were saying this, and I thought, "This is really, really strange."

And so, I hypothesized really quickly and wondered, "Does this have to do with self-esteem? And what other variables would have to do with self-esteem?" And then I realized that some of the women in the sorority lived in the sorority, and some of them didn't, and I wondered if those who didn't had a different-sized cube than those who did.

So, I said, "If your cube was over six feet," which, again was very big in all the cubings that I had done, "please raise your hand." And they raised their hands, and I said, "If you -" so, about 70% of the group. "If you live in the sorority, raise your hand," and the hands stayed up! They were the same hands! I don't - I don't know. Somebody who's a researcher out there and wants to do some investigation of this fun game, by all means, have at it. But I don't want to invest clinical energy into this right now to say, "This means something," where it doesn't, that you take what you like and leave the rest. But I did find that interesting.

And so, the same goes with material, right? Some people will have material that's transparent. "Are you transparent, are you not?" Some people will have very guarded cubes. So, like, they're on lockdown with bolts and rusts, and they've been through a lot. Some people will have cubes that are very literal, like Rubik's Cubes or ice cubes. People will have cubes that are floating or rotating or on one of their corners, and they're going around like this [twirls finger]; I imagine some of you are describing your cubes again in the... in the...chat. So yeah! Very fascinating! I'm trying to think of anything else I can say about them for you.

Oh! Someone told me once that their cube was opaque, like, you couldn't see through it, and then I asked if there was anything on the inside. They said yes, that there was a whole control center going on. It just appeared - oh, no, it wasn't opaque! It just LOOKED, it looked like it was transparent, like you could see right through it, there was nothing to hide. But on the inside, there was a whole control center, and I have always thought that that was fascinating, because the person didn't know that the cube represented themselves. Anyway.

Mm! Somebody's asking for "Meyers-Briggs, please." Mine is ENFP. All right! Next thing in this fun game that we're playing.

And then, we'll leave the next bit for any sex questions you answer, and if you can get to 15,000 before-, in the next 50 minutes - so five-zero - then I will do another livestream this week, and I'll answer more of your sex questions.

[reads chat] Hi, from Venezuela!

Okay, so the next item is a ladder - so, that's your friends. Again, I don't want to interpret too much. Maybe rungs are-, the quantity, whether or not it's been used, like, have you utilized your friend groups or do you take advantage of them? Are there any rungs that are broken?

I had a friend whose ladder was leaning against the cube, so do your friends rely on you? Does the cube rely on the ladder? Or the ladder is needed to get to the top of the cube to see more of oneself?

All right, next item is the horse - that's your lover, and you can take from that anything you'd like. Some people have multiple horses, and I don't say multiple horses when I am cubing people, but they'll say, "Oh, there's another hor-... there's... there's a whole group of horses." And then I'll laugh and let, you know, they can describe as many as they want. And I've had somebody kind of doing a lot of personal work really identify with the horse themselves, like they felt like they were their own lover, and that works, but in the exercise, I think it's meant to represent your lover or your partner. So, of course, you can have multiple horses. Whether or not they have gear might be a control piece or any, like... Is there some sort of domestication of the person. [higher pitch] I don't know.

All right! Oh, I'm so excited you're all here and really grateful that we get to spend some time together on Sunday. It was not super difficult to set up this livestream, so I would love to do it again.

All right. We are talking about horses because we're doing a cubing, and in the cubing exercise, the horse refers to your lover. The next object in the desert that you might want to understand the meaning of is the plant, and that is your family. It is said that if there is a flower that that is children, but maybe not - who knows. Some plants are really thriving, some plants aren't. Some people have more than one plant. Some horses eat their plants. ... You can make of it what you'd like.

Here are some notes: If you don't believe this, that's cool. I'm not invested in it at all, I don't expect you to buy it. This isn't clinical, it's not, you know, hard science. It's just a fun exercise to really get people thinking about themselves and opening up communication.

A really great way to test it though, is to do this to somebody you know really, really well. So, ask them if you can cube them, and then ask them to imagine these objects in the desert, and then see what they say. And also, you can do this to yourself or to other people even if they know what the objects mean, because the mind is so powerful that it really-, if you start with the neutralizer of the desert, it doesn't matter if you already know what the cube is.

If you say, "Okay, I imagine a desert and the cube," then, that is what you will imagine. At least, in my experience, people have not been able to control what they imagine. Also, if you want a shortcut, you don't have to go desert, cube, ladder, horse, etc. You can go straight to whatever you're wondering about. So, if you're wondering about your friendships, you can go desert, ladder immediately and ask yourself questions like, "Do I need a new ladder?" Is there anything that they can save from this ladder? "Do I need to lift this ladder up?" That kind of stuff, and then, you can get some answers or at least some thoughts that might lead to answers.

Okay, so the plant is your family, and then the last one is a storm, which are your troubles or your future and what's coming, what's brewing, and I've heard all different versions of this. Somebody had-, so [points] there was their cube, and they had a cloud, raincloud [cup gesture over "cube"], that was only raining on the cube. And other people have had these brilliant purple and orange storms come in across the desert and go right past the cube and the horse or it would hit the horse but miss the cube, vice-versa, so.

It's always fascinating to hear these, and thanks for letting me cube you! So fun! I like seeing here that so many of you are sharing your stuff. [reads chat] "Hi from Albania!" Let's do some sex questions, shall we? I'm gonna check the Indiegogo over here. I would love to get to 15,000 by the end of this two-hour period, or - sorry, three-our period - so, at 2 o'clock, which is in 44 minutes? I would really love to just have so many sperm donors. That's-, if we could get-, here are my goals. Can I write them down? Of course, I can.

All right. I'm just gonna use the onesie here. Sorry, onesie. All right, these are my goals for the next 40 minutes? [unintelligible] Turn. I'm gonna write these, here we go. So. It's to have 20 sperm donors. Total. So we don't have to get 20 new ones, although that would be incredible. 15,000 on Indiegogo. Let's see, what else... Can I answer 30 questions. And any other cool things? Okay, I wanna go through perks. Perks. Okay, so that's it; those are my goals for the next 40 minutes: I'm going to answer 30 sex questions, I want to raise 15,000 for Indiegogo total - if we do another 15,000 that would be awesome - get 20 sperm donors, and go through the perks.

So, I'm gonna start with the bottom one first. On the Indiegogo page, I have gone up through the book from Lindsey's shelves - that is $75. The next perk is $100, because I noticed in the first week or so of doing the Indiegogo campaign that a lot of people were donating at the $100 level, and I couldn't keep up with the perk, and so, like, rotating out perks for that amount?

So, I just set it at 100 and called it "100%." So, 100% of the $100 that you donate will go to the Sexplanations Road Tour. It's not about perks; you understand that it is about the Sexplanations Road Tour and taking comprehensive sex education to ther people.

After that, for $120, you can sponsor park sleepovers! So, we'll be primarily parked on, like, sides of roads and parking lots and RV parks, etc., and we thought it would be fun to have someone sponsor us sleeping at national parks, and those RV parks in particular so that we can - ah! - yeah, wake up surrounded by mountains or rivers or, you know, someplace super nice. So, I think that's four nights at 120 or three nights? Something like that. So you would cover-, a person who sponsored that 120 would cover all of those nights.

For $200, you get the super-sized digital perk package. And so, that includes all of the things in the $50 digital perk package PLUS my master's thesis, which is on the-, it's a phenomenology of the sexual intercourse experiences among individuals of varied sex levels of sexual self-disclosure, and I'm gonna look at the thing here - oh! - and it also has a 30-page draft of my book proposal, because why not.

I wanna share things with you.

For $300, you get to name the RV sink. Every time somebody buys one of the perks that allows you to name or sponsor a part of my new house, I try to upload a new item. But we still have sinks available! And I think that the sinks are sweet, because the one, at least, is the first thing that you see when you go into the RV. It's just this, like, shiny silver sink, and a lot will be happening in that sink.

Okay, $350, you get to name the RV closets. I wrote, "The closets in the RV symbolize the tour's effort to include LGBTIQA+ identities, health resources, and relationships in sex education. The closets symbolize going into communities where there's a lack of representation, support, and safety for this community, so that they feel more empowered to come out of the closet."

$450 - you get to name the RV cabover bed, which is super cool because there are three beds in the RV: the dinette turns into a little twin, there's a full-size bed that my partner and I will be sleeping in, and then there's the cabover, which is a queen that goes over the front-driver's seat and passenger seat, and this is our guest bed. So, whenever we have sex educators, family members, friends, etc., who want to just jump on part of the tour and come along, that's the bed that they'll sleep in. I'm very excited to announce who wants to go on tour with us, so you'll sponsor their bed!

$600 - you can nominate or be a podcast guest on the Sexplanations Podcast. We host-, we have new episodes every week, and you can be one of those guests.

"Dinner with Dr. Doe," this is exciting for me, because I get to sit down and have food with you, which I love. I like meeting people, going on dates, having food. So, for $1200, we'll try to make an extra-special effort to get to some place where you are, or you can come to some place where we are, and then we'll have dinner. And this is actually me buying dinner for you and three of your friends. You know, someplace reasonable, but I'm also paying into this perk so that we can make this possible.

$3000 - you're making the RV more eco-friendly. So, things like solar power, and batteries, and making sure that the tires are great so that it's fuel-efficient, etc.

$6000 brings the tour TO you. So, I will - anywhere, like, you decide as long as I'm not gonna die by going there - if you say, "I want you to this place in India," then I will go there for $6000.

$10,000 you get to name the whole RV, it doesn't have a name, we haven't even called it anything because I really want somebody to be able to name it.

And this last one here is $22,500, you host a conference. So, we budgeted that every show on the tour, if we divide all the budget by forty events - and we're talking about the camera equipment and stuff so that we can share this with our people in the RV and the gas, and perk-fulfillment, etc. - that $22,500 would be like you hosting a whole conference. And so, we would do multiple presentations in your honor, and you could name that conference where Dr. Doe and Crew come to do Sexplanations Live for you!

Okay, we have successfully accomplished a goal, so I'm gonna go, "Boop!" [crosses out on board] Awesome. And if you felt like I skimmed over something, and you want to know more about it, you can always click on the perk and read more about that. And on Patreon, too, there's a whole other set of perks that are really cool and unique, and you can check those out.

Okay, let's do "30 questions answered," and hopefully while I'm doing that, you as audience members will take care of these two [points to board]. [reads chat] "Can you recommend-," I'm gonna start here, right? Yes, I'm gonna start here with this first question:

"Can you recommend some great condoms?" I really like One Brand, and then-, who - One Brand are the circle ones - and then, I think it's Directs or Lifestyles, whoever makes the "Skyn" S-K-Y-N, those are my ultimate favorite. They're polyisoprene, which means that they have -... they can be used by people who don't have latex allergies, and they also have the elasticity of latex.

Okay, give me your questions. "Why don't more people use LARKS?" Live-Action-Role-... That was LARPs; okay, I don't know how to answer the question when I don't know what the-, okay. [laughs] Try another question. We've done one so far. [marks board] Tick, okay.

"What do you advise somebody who likes the idea of sex but doesn't enjoy sex to do?" Fantasize. [marks board] Two.

"Can you describe some of your fetishes?" I don't really have any fetishes; I'm pretty vanilla. ... Oo! I like body hair a lot and veins, like a person's veins on their arms, I like that. [marks board] Okay, I'm counting that as an answer.

"Do you sell your panties?" No. [marks board] I have a pair of them right here, though. They're just crumpled up on my bed from playing before, and I'm not gonna sell them because I'm not ready to do that in my life. Maybe after I'm 40.

"Thoughts on sexting?" It's a-...mm-hmm... I want to do a whole video on it. I think it's much safer sex than other forms of sex, and also, I want to caution people how they do it, because I don't want anybody to be convicted of possessing child pornography as a result of either receiving or sending something that is underage sexual content, and... What else do I want to say about it. And then end up on a sex-offender list or hurting people, like - do not sex without consent.

So, for example, my partner will say, "Do you consent to me sending you dick pics?" And I'll be like, "Yes," and he asks me every time, and that's helpful, too, because... I could be using my phone in a public setting, and to just like [beeps] a dick pic, probably not the way to go. [marks board] I think that is a new - okay. We're up to five.

"How do you know sperm is healthy?" You can have somebody look at it under a microscope. [marks board] And tell you.

"My Skyn condoms keep drying up. What can I do to make them not do that?" Use lube [marks board] or try another brand. Or put them on after you have done other things. So, like hand-jobs, massage, verbal kind of storytelling - what people might call "dirty talk" - doing a lot of other play before putting a condom on and doing anything you need a condom for. [marks board] I'm losing count here. I don't know if I'm answering questions and counting at the same time.

[higher pitch] Aah! "I have aphantasia, so I can't imagine anything. Would you have any advice when it comes to masturbation?" Yes! For people to just experience those sensations, to not even fantasize about anything if you don't want to, but like, yeah. And I apologize; I don't know what "aphantasia" is; I assume that it means you're without the ability to fantasize.

"What should someone do if they find fantasizing something that gives them anxiety?" Betterhelp.com/sexplanations. I don't think that you have to fantasize but if you're like me and that just kind of happens and then it creates anxiety, I think working with a professional that can help you detach anxiety from a conditioned or unconditioned stimulus is important.

"How do you get your sex drive back?" There is an awesome playlist on Sexplanations' YouTube page that has all sorts of information there and a video in particular about getting sex-... "Getting Back to Your Healthy Sex Life," I think it's called?

"What can someone do to develop confidence to talk to people who are interested to form a relationship?" I'm gonna do an episode for you, because I think a lot of times I talk about sex, like, "Here's what you do in a sexual relationship," and I haven't done enough to help people acquire a sexual relationship. [marks board, chuckles]

My counting system is terrible.

"Could you simulate an orgasm?" I would like to actually do an orgasm as an episode, and I'm working on that with other creators. Also, I have done that in... There's an orgasms video where I act like Meg Ryan is acting in When Harry Met Sally. [marks] Check.

"Does doing no-fap increase your testosterone levels dramatically?" I don't know. I can do more research there.

"Can you sell your panties OUR bra?" No. Not yet.

[reading chat] Whoa, this just jumped. "Is it healthy if I eat my own semen?" I don't know how to measure "health" in that sense, but people can eat their own semen and it not do destructive things. I think that's a good thing to ask a medical provider.

"Are you always surprised?" No. But I am often curious.

"How to properly use lube for penetration?" [big sigh] Let's see. Encourage the person to go through the cycle of arousal, who, like-. Whoever is participating, encourage awareness of their physiology so everybody knows that they're actually turned on lube isn't just being put in all the time as a substitute for unpreparedness. And then, I would encourage applying lube with your hand, or the other person can do it, applying it to areas that might need the reduction of friction, and then you can also do things like putting it on objects of insertion, you can put them inside the tip of the condom to make the condom move more fluidly over the head of an object of insertion, etc. Maybe there needs to be a whole episode about that.

"Hello, do you know-" ... "I know you mentioned it is normal for a girl to not get wet sometimes even if she is aroused or in the mood; what is the cause of this?" There are lots of causes physiological and psychological, and there is a video called, I think, "Being Your Own Sexologist" that can help with that.

"Do you think watching porn is healthy?" It's... I think things are about intention and context. [marks board] I think I get, like, five there. [chuckles] I'm losing count.

"Might you be able to discuss the condition of vaginismus?" This is when the vaginal canal clenches so tightly that penetration is painful and/or impossible, and I have talked about it in a video about when sex is painful. And I would love to talk about it more; I think it's a really important topic.

"Aphantas-," yeah, that word, "is the suggested name for a condition where one does not posses a functionary mind's-eye and cannot voluntarily visualize imagery." Thank you for telling me.

"What is the way to have a healthy sexual life if I have an allergic reaction to condoms?" To all condoms? Because there are lots of other condoms, and there are lots of ways to protect yourself. Also, inventing new contraceptive methods or protective methods are great. So, invent things! Encourage people to invent things. Support healthy conversations about sexuality to learn more. [marks] I want credit for these.

"How do you talk to your school or local government about teaching non-abstinence-only sex education at high schools?" Maybe go to a faculty member who you trust or multiple faculty members, you can present them data; Guttemacher Institute has data, Siecus S-I-E-C-U-S has data, and you can present that to them.

You can say, "Hey, Sexplanations Road Tour is coming through our area; they will do this for free. Can we provide them with an auditorium?" Get a student-group together and ask for people in numbers to propose having a better sex-education system, and talk to guardians - so, your parents or caregivers; let them know what you want and need, and ask them how they can take care of you if they're not willing to give you comprehensive sex education.

"Is it weird that I had a 40-minute orgasm one time?" No. [marks and beeps]

"My girlfriend thinks prostate stimulation is not for heterosexual men, but I'm really curious. How to convince her?" I mean, that is her thought, her belief. I don't, I don't-... What am I trying to say here. Anybody can have a prostate massage who wants it and is abl-, it's not about sexual orientation. At all. At all.

I'm thinking about livestock and how there are these huge vibrating probes that're put into the assholes of male livestock to get them to ejaculate. So that you can look at the sperm and see the virility or the fertility there - I don't know if I'm using my words correctly - and that does not have anything to do with who that sheep or bull or whatever is attracted to. Anyway. Okay.

"How do you -," yes, I don't know how to convince her. I don't think the goal is to convince her as so much is to stay curious, and have conversations, and maybe encourage her to talk to other people, and get other's opinions.

"How do you gain confidence that a partner really likes you when the partners have lied about that to you out of pity in the past?" Essentially being dated out of pity. [marks] I want, boop-boop. Again, betterhelp.com/sexplanations. I think that this isn't-, trust can be built up in a relationship, but I don't think it's the other person's responsibility to rewrite your story for you.

And so, if you're experiencing trauma from being lied to in past relationships, that's something that you, as a contributor to the health of your current relationship, need to work on on your own. With other-, you can work with the other person and say, "I'm feeling insecure," or "I need a little more trust to build before I can go here, here in the relationship," but a lot of that is on you. Yes, it sucks because somebody else hurt you, and you have to do the work, AND you GET to. You have resources for that. You can talk about it with friends, you can journal - there are lots of ways to heal. Let's see.

"What town or state do you want to visit on tour most?" Many were in Tennessee, Alabama, Georgia areas so probably Chattanooga.

"I'm 14, a girl, and haven't come yet - is this normal?" Yes. You're taught very little about your body, and you probably need some time to masturbate and understand your physiology. Also, orgasming is -... [counting board] Ohmigosh, did I do it? I'm gonna give you some more. [back to chat] It's a developmental thing, like, you're developing. You know, like, different things come at different times in life with different experiences.

"I'm experienced and my boyfriend isn't. How do I tell him what I like and help him find out what he likes?" A "Want/Will/Won't" list. There are videos about that on [sing-song] Sexplanations. [vocalizes] Na [x8]

"What are your thoughts on anorgasmia?" The same thing; if you don't want to orgasm, you don't have to. If you do, then I suggest masturbating, and there's a whole video about that and learning about your body so that you can be orgasmic.

I don't think BetterHelp is a scam; I did a ton of research, I wrote a post about that research, and I am one of their clients not out of need so much as out of curiosity, and I have felt very cared-about by all of the therapists that I worked with on their site. So, I choose to continue supporting them as an organization because I have never come across something that really serves mental health in the way that mental health seeks to be served.

So, if a person is experiencing depression and doesn't want to get out of bed or can't, or if a person has a schedule like mine, which is very inconsistent and can't just make a Tuesday-at-10-o'clock appointment, BetterHealth is awesome, because you can do whatever you what from wherever.

Anything else?

"Is it weird to watch - 

"- this with zero sex experience whatsoever?" No, absolutely not.

"What does coming feel like?" There is an episode called, "How a Nerd Describes Orgasm," I think? And that is my description of it.

"What superpower would you have, and what would you use that is it-..." Whoa, let me try that again. "What superpower would you have, and how would you use it in your sex life?" I would love to be able to understand other species - speak all the languages - right? And I think that the way that that would benefit my sex life is that I would be able to communicate and understand others in their own languages.

"I'm looking to explore more of my sexuality. I want to ask my parents for a sex toy. Any suggestions?" Yeah! I think I talked about that in a video, and I would encourage you to watch Sexplanations episodes, and there are some about making your own sex toys, because even if your parents could get those for you, I don't think you possessing them is always legal where people live.

Okay, I'm gonna pause on the questions here and check things out on the Indiegogo. I am going to the Indiegogo page, and it looks like we have 11,329, which is awesome. We have no new sperm donors, that's okay. I'm gonna look at the Patreon here, too. It looks like it IS counting, because it went from the 336 or 836 to 856, so that's awesome.

Here's what's gonna happen now. I drank all that water, and I need to go to the bathroom. So, be right back. You can talk amongst yourselves and see how I should raise money from here on out. [chucks](?~2:42:22) An awareness! If you can come up with a great strategy, that would be awesome. [moves laptop] I'm gonna leave this here, post it-, put up on a little shelf, and I'm gonna go to the bathroom, and I will be back.

[offscreen, silent 2:42:38-2:44:12]

Oh gosh! Thank you for letting me be the kind of community where I can leave and go to the bathroom; self-care is really important, and I appreciate that all of you are kind about that.

Okay, it is now 1:45, we're gonna be done here in 15 minutes. I see that there are 454 people watching. I'm really grateful to all of you for spending time with me today, that's really, really cool. And the Indiegogo is going well. Again, please share this with people that you know, people that you don't know, and just ask them to get involved, because - yes. We need people to show up to be sex educated. Or, yeah.

A reminder-, oh, here. I'm gonna answer any questions that you have about the tour. So, the torrent of fundraising questions are what I would like to answer. [reads chat, hums]

"Dr. Doe, you should have moderators watching your chat sessions." Thank you. It's Sunday; we all work really hard.

Okay, "Can you tour in Arkansas?" Yes.

"Are you coming to Pennsylvania?" Yes.

"Will you be okay coming to a high school?" If the high school is okay with me being there.

"Any plans on getting to Europe - specifically Norway - with the tour?" No plans for Norway, but you can purchase a perk on the Indiegogo Sexplanations Road Tour fundraising page for me to come to Norway, and I will do that.

Thank you all for the compliments. It's amazing.

"I'm distressed that you won't take your dog with you on tour." I'm distressed that I won't take my dog with me on tour, too. Like, really stressed. So, my dog was in, I think, four different homes before I adopted her, and she was still a puppy. So, she's gone through some trauma, and when I used to go to work ,we had the dog-, the neighbors and I would have our dogs in the adjacent fenced yards, and they would play. And some neighborhood kids would come, and they would abuse the dogs when we were at work. So, she's got more trauma.

She's just got a lot of trauma and a lot of separation anxiety. So if I leave my house and nobody is here to watch her, she will dig through the walls. And if I put her in a vehicle, she is anxious the whole time, panting and really scared, and so... yeah.

But! The really exciting thing is that my first foster daughter - so, somebody that I looked after almost ten years ago - lives in the area in this beautiful home with a nice family, she's actually all grown up with kids of her own, and she could just open the door and the dog can just roam and have a great time, and she's an artist who works at home. So, my aging, beautiful puppy will have somebody that she knows to look after her, and kids to give her attention, and a place to be free and happy, and I will feel like I've done all the right things. Except I'll miss her so much.

Let's see. "How much would booking be for you to do a tour stop in Pueblo, Colorado?" I mean, there is an amount for all of the Sexplanations stops if you want me to just come there and like, "I am in your location," regardless or not it was on my path, and that is 6,000. But if you want me to come there without paying, another way to do that is to recruit a lot of votes for your location, and there are a couple ways to do that:

Every time a donation is made, you can put in that location on the ballot -

to nominate a tour stop. And I just opened it so that once this livestream stops, you can go in the comment section, because they'll turn on, and you can put your city, and then, people can upvote it. So, that's another way to really get my attention and say, "This is a place where people want the tour to go."

So, I'm shaking so much; I have this on my knee now.

"What do you think the most difficult aspect of the tour will be?" I think people showing up. Like, one thing for me to be there, that's gonna be super hard, but getting people to be where we are when we're there is gonna be hard, and that's why I need more participation. And right now, there's a little part of me that's defeated, because... about 200 people have made donations which is a very small-, a very generous amount and a very small amount.

We were looking at other fundraising projects and similar tours and planning on much, much more participation - not even money, but just participation, and we're way below that amount. And so, there's a part of me that says, "Oh gosh, maybe the audience isn't into it. They don't want us to do it." I haven't gotten there yet with a committed "Okay, I'm gonna give up," because those 200 people are incredibly dedicated and devoted and supportive. But there is a part of me that's like, "I'm just gonna go to these places and nobody's gonna be there, because I can't even get people to talk about the tour before it happens." I don't know, I'm nervous.

Let's see. [read chat] Okay, I will-, Kyle Francis says, "Don't give up." I won't give up. I won't give up. It's actually been a really cool experience. Like I said, those people and all of you who are participating right now, are really special. And you have shown me that this is important to you, so. It's important to me, too! I'm gonna go on tour. I want to see other places and help as much as I can, so, we'll try.

"Is there any way we can request cities without donating money?" Yes, absolutely. So, one of those ways is to post in the comments the city where you'd like us to go and then hope that people upvote that on THIS video in particular. So, any other videos I'm not going to be looking at location votes. THIS video, this livestream, people who go here and post in the comments of this video, I will count as votes - ballot votes. And you can encourage people who CAN donate or vote to do the same. And they can get the money in.

To me, it seems pretty simple. If I wanted someone like Hank Green to come on tour in Missoula, I would message everyone that I know and just ask them to-, like send them the link to this video and say in the comments, "Can you please upvote Missoula, Montana. This is a personality that I really value and would love to see live." And I would explain why I would like people to see it live and say, "This is about quantity. It's not about money or time or anything like that. You just - boop! Push a thumbs-up.

Okay. "Any chance you'll be visiting the eastern Kentucky region where Ohio, West Virginia, and Kentucky all meet? Yeah, that sounds awesome. Sounds awesome, I would love to be there. Please invite me. You only have to donate a dollar to suggest TWO cities!

"Try offering to perform watersports in a bathtub."
"How much a-, how...? How many upvotes would a town need to be considered for the tour?" Any number. Because if you get one upvote for the tour, that puts your location into a hat for a drawing, and anyone could win that. The more, though, that you have, like-, in my head for some reason the number 200 keeps coming up - if a city could get 200 people, then I would do my best to drive out of the way to get there.

Okay. "Is there a place where I'm most worried to visit?" I'm most excited to visit the south and also pretty scared. But in this country, there's a lot of hatred everywhere, and I'm trying to not be afraid of it, and to just say, "Okay, I have a good security plan in place, and I trust that my audience will show up, and they will show that show that this is something that they want in their communities and fight for their freedom of speech.

"So, Patreon is how you get involved for donations? I would love to help out. I'm in Atlanta, Georgia." Yes, there's a Patreon page, and there's and Indiegogo page; both of them have different perk levels and support tour. Can you tell I'm losing steam? [chuckles]

What will I eat for lunch? I don't know, something delicious. Macaroni and cheese? That sounds great.

Okay. Ken Thomas says, "Dr. Doe for the late-joiners to the stream, would you mind giving a brief overview of what the tour is and when it's happening?" Yes.

On YouTube.com/Sexplanations, there is a video about the tour. And on the tour video-, in the tour video, it talks about how we are in the fundraising stages right now on Indiegogo and Patreon to make this a community project that pays for the expenses of sending me on tour with no cost to the attendees. So, any audience members don't have to pay a ticket price to come get Sexplanations Live - we're just giving it to them. And so, we, as a group, are saying, "Hey! My sexuality has been improved by Sexplanations. I want that for other people, and other people and six-degrees-of-separation, probably somebody that I'm gonna have sex with or somebody I care about is going to have sex with. So! I'm gonna make a donation!"

And then, I am leaving on Wednesday to go to L.A. for PatreCon to kind of talk about all of this at their conference - Patreon's conference - and then, I am coming back here for a week, and then I'm going to Atlanta to do ThinkerCon and talk about this, again - or, not Atlanta, I'm so sorry - Huntsville, Alabama to talk about this all again. I would love to do a meet-up there if anybody is there.

Then I come back here and go to Croatia, Slovenia, Montenegro, and Italy - and I'd love to do meet-ups in all of those places - and I'm happy to do sex education while I'm there, too, that is more of a travel-for-pleasure tour. And then, I come back here, and then we leave! On December 27th is our intended launch date, and we're gonna go from Missoula, Montana, south - some sort of zig-zaggy thing - south, then east, then zig [x7].

I'm gonna fly to London and Dublin in Europe to do some things there, and then come back-. Oh, and go to Charlotte, so a speaking engagement there, and then get back in the RV and [rapid zig-zag sounds], go north, and then back west, and then home over a period of four to five months, but longer if we raise more money.

Okay, that's 2 o'clock, friends! I'm gonna check the stats here one more time. I appreciate all of you being here, this is not the end of our fundraising by any means. You can share this livestream with people, they don't have to watch it live, they can, you know, watch it whenever. And there's some frequently a-er-asked [laughing] questions I'll share in the description. Remember that you can post your nominations for places that we stop in the comments and continue to ask your questions, and I'll try to answer them in videos or just in line comments, or maybe I've answered them before, and you can ask people to share with you links to those videos so you can find them.

On the Sexplanations Road Tour Patreon page, we have 881 dollars a month between 86 patrons, and on the Indiegogo page-, I'm gonna refresh this - we have made... $11,582 to 12% of our goal across 189 backers, so. You're all amazing, we've got 17 days left to do this; please share it with as many friends, family members, strangers, enemies - just share it, please! Get the word out there, let people know that you want Sexplanations in your town and invite them to up-click your votes, so that I know that you want me there.

And if you have any questions, you can go to Sexplanations.com; there is an email address specifically about the road tour that people can answer your questions on.

Okay, I think that's it. Thank you all for hanging out and stay curious! Maybe. I'm gonna try to find out... hanging up here. Aah! Okay, bye.