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I'm Dr. Lindsey Doe, clinical sexologist, and host of this sex-curious show, Sexplanations. Once upon a time, I did a video on tips for your first time having sex.

Today, I want to revisit that, except with your tips. So today on Twitter, I asked, "Sex tips for first-timers?"

To start with, we've got to masturbate.

Jonatan Pina Duluc says, "Practice not cumming on your own, first." And Mrs. G agrees, "It's OK to ask for what you want. Masturbate and find out what you like, then tell this to your partner." Yes! Touch yourself! I agree! Figure it out!

The Secret Submissive did this awesome thing of sharing a whole blog that they wrote, "Five ultimate tips for the first time sex," and says, "The most important advice I can give is to relax and be confident in your decision. You're going to decide, 'Am I going to have sex for the first time?' Are you confident about that. Does this feel right. Are you excited about the person that you're with? Or not, but you're OK with that decision. You're confident about it."

Then we have a big group of you who mentioned consent in some form.

Nicholai 22 says, "Consent first. Communicate what you like, want, and love your partner to do. Wear protection, and do some foreplay. Then ease into the sex, unless you both got the hot chemistry bang-on when you kiss." Jason says, "Enthusiastic consent, greater than, consent!" Alex Louise says, "Consent and communication are sexy. Have fun!" K. Martin says, "Consent is sexy. Ask, ask, ask. Lube is also sexy. Be safe. Protect from germs and sperms."

"Don't overthink it, stay calm, and know that consent can be revoked..." (If. They meant to say if.) 'Cause if you don't have consent for sex, then what you have is rape. This is all very important, beginner stuff.

David Jameson encourages people to, "Enjoy yourself, and each other, but remember that you each have the right to rescind consent whenever you want." So then we get into this whole big thing where a lot of you spoke up for the right to stop at any time, let's say you have the confidence in your decision to have sex for the first time and then you have consent from all parties, now it's about stopping.

Starting with the first response from @sami_automatik, "It's okay to say no or stop at ANY TIME. Make sure u reciprocate that if it comes up." So that you are okay with the other person saying no or stopping if it comes up. This is nice!

Pancake Owl adds, "If something hurts, stop doing that and try something else, there's always more options. Also take things even slower than slow because it's all new and rushing into new things usually doesn't work out very well."

Now we've got this little category, all of you who were like, "Slow down!" Thinking back to all of my sexual experiences, it isn't that they were fast, it's just not in slow motion. I'm gonna make an effort to have some slow-motion sex based on all of your advice here.

Oh my goodness, so many of you! We've got @milrock2018 saying, "It's not a race take your time! Enjoy each other! Love each other!" SierraHome saying, "Gentle. Slow. Learn before." Maybe a callback to masturbation? James says, "Go slow. Be patient. COMMUNICATE." Sofia T says, "Wait until you know you are READY. You are never ready but really think about the first person you're about to do it with." @Elise_Logan says, "Make sure you have plenty of time and won't be interrupted. Go slow, use lube, and expect to make mistakes. Be sure to continue to communicate with your partner and have a good time."

I love how all of you are so sex-positive and no one's like, "Oh, you wanna have sex for the first time? DON'T!" Instead everybody's just like, "Yeah, have fun!"

Mary F says "Go slow, take your time, consent first, and talk often about what works and doesn't. It's ok to take a step back if you decide you aren't ready." Steven, "Take it slow," @merely cat, "slow and steady wins the race," James, "Don't rush it and communicate."