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I have some nostalgia about the early days of Sexplanations, when I was more carefree and energized. I looked back on a video that seems to have really benefited people the original First Time Tips https://youtu.be/F_hGkcrgtdc? and thought it would be helpful to update the video and share experience and insight from a broader source -- all of you.
I asked on Twitter what your first time tips are for those having sex and a lot of you shared about masturbation, consent, communication, changing your mind, and reasonable expectations. Here's a link to your responses: https://twitter.com/elleteedee/status/1419742549896400899
Here are links to some of the other resources I mention while going through the suggestions given:
https://tsubmissive.medium.com/5-ultimate-tips-for-first-time-sex-66de472b0b00
https://youtu.be/xoYxd3E3UXU?t=83
https://youtu.be/SqdF0AL2GBQ?t=204
https://youtu.be/5A5Nz_cnyfI?t=122
Thank you to everyone who contributed to this and all of you who are doing the work to prepare for your first time. Stay curious.
I have some nostalgia about the early days of Sexplanations, when I was more carefree and energized. I looked back on a video that seems to have really benefited people the original First Time Tips https://youtu.be/F_hGkcrgtdc? and thought it would be helpful to update the video and share experience and insight from a broader source -- all of you.
I asked on Twitter what your first time tips are for those having sex and a lot of you shared about masturbation, consent, communication, changing your mind, and reasonable expectations. Here's a link to your responses: https://twitter.com/elleteedee/status/1419742549896400899
Here are links to some of the other resources I mention while going through the suggestions given:
https://tsubmissive.medium.com/5-ultimate-tips-for-first-time-sex-66de472b0b00
https://youtu.be/xoYxd3E3UXU?t=83
https://youtu.be/SqdF0AL2GBQ?t=204
https://youtu.be/5A5Nz_cnyfI?t=122
Thank you to everyone who contributed to this and all of you who are doing the work to prepare for your first time. Stay curious.
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[Intro: Clearing throat]
I'm Dr. Lindsey Doe, clinical sexologist, and host of this sex-curious show, Sexplanations. Once upon a time, I did a video on tips for your first time having sex.
Today, I want to revisit that, except with your tips. So today on Twitter, I asked, "Sex tips for first-timers?"
To start with, we've got to masturbate.
Jonatan Pina Duluc says, "Practice not cumming on your own, first." And Mrs. G agrees, "It's OK to ask for what you want. Masturbate and find out what you like, then tell this to your partner." Yes! Touch yourself! I agree! Figure it out!
The Secret Submissive did this awesome thing of sharing a whole blog that they wrote, "Five ultimate tips for the first time sex," and says, "The most important advice I can give is to relax and be confident in your decision. You're going to decide, 'Am I going to have sex for the first time?' Are you confident about that. Does this feel right. Are you excited about the person that you're with? Or not, but you're OK with that decision. You're confident about it."
Then we have a big group of you who mentioned consent in some form.
Nicholai 22 says, "Consent first. Communicate what you like, want, and love your partner to do. Wear protection, and do some foreplay. Then ease into the sex, unless you both got the hot chemistry bang-on when you kiss." Jason says, "Enthusiastic consent, greater than, consent!" Alex Louise says, "Consent and communication are sexy. Have fun!" K. Martin says, "Consent is sexy. Ask, ask, ask. Lube is also sexy. Be safe. Protect from germs and sperms."
"Don't overthink it, stay calm, and know that consent can be revoked..." (If. They meant to say if.) 'Cause if you don't have consent for sex, then what you have is rape. This is all very important, beginner stuff.
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