Previous: 5 Asexuality Experiences - 27
Next: Ask Lindsey #6: Transvestites, Drag Queens, and Male Sex Toys - 29



View count:88,661
Last sync:2022-10-28 17:00
In which Lindsey tackles some of your questions about penis-centric dry humping, the future of sex, and many other topics

You can ask Lindsey Questions at:

Host: Dr. Lindsey Doe

Directing/Filming/Editing: Nicholas Jenkins

Titles: Michael Aranda

Executive Producer: Hank Green

Music Used In This Episode: Mining by Moonlight by Kevin MacLeod
Lindsey: You've got some questions! I've got some answers! Ready...go!


"Referring to the dry humping video, this is cool and all, but aren't most of these positions male-pleasure focused?" The names of the the sex have to do with body parts that many people have. And anything can be rubbed on them. Clit, hands, toys, booty, the whole body!

"Are there different vagina options?" Humar-radial, nasal, patellar, senseput, yup, I'm making things up. It's the nerd in me. It's dry humping, it doesn't need to be clinical.

"Yes, but HOW to get a woman?" Publius Ovidius Naso, Ovid, wrote three books on this very thing and 2,330 lines about love and seduction. It's been 2013 years since Ars Amatoria, it's poetic but not modern, just like the idea of "getting a woman".

"Have you read, and do you have an opinion on Mary Roach's book, Bonk?" I have not read but do have two copies of Bonk, bonk, bonk, bonk!

"I would love for you to go more in depth on the harmful to minors book idea, what is appropriate and why? What information are they missing and what does this do to them? How candid should we be?" Appropriate is using terms like: vulva, penis, clitoris, and nipple. Appropriate is teaching that human beings aren't binary, we are diverse! We are diverse in our genitals, our performance, our expressions, our faces. Appropriate is teaching self-care like masturbation, privacy, and hygiene. It is honesty, and finding the resources when you don't know the answer. It's not just that our kiddos are missing out on information it's that they're being misinformed, they're being taught that they have "hoo-hoos" and "toolboxes" in their pants, that sex is dirty, and they should save it for the one they love. "Ah! You forgot how candid we should be!" I don't know candid as a gradient, you're either candid, or you're not. Candid, of course. It's been 7-8 years since I read Levine's book, but I can still tell you this, it's misinformation that is harmful to minors.

"What kind of eyeliner do you use?" ZuZu luxe.

"In what situations is it okay to not use a condom?" When everyone involved is okay with the risks that the condom is in place to mitigate. Like pregnancy, sexually transmitted infections, and phthalates.

"How important is protection in lesbian sex?" It's as important as the lesbians you're protecting.

"Do I really need to use a dental dam when hooking up or is it just super precautionary?" It may super precautionary, that's a great thing, if you're talking about "hooking up" this is probably what, casual sex? And you might not know the person's STI status; you can transmit things like herpes via oral sex, so yes, protect yourself.

"I'm only attracted to other girls, but recently I've realized that I want to kiss Harry Stiles on the mouth, what does this mean?" It means that you think Harry Stiles is a girl? Or you're not only attracted to women, or more likely, that behaviors do not equate to attraction.

"How do you envision sexuality changing in the next 50, 100, or 1,000 years?" Legal and respected companions, long, textured, non-laytex gloves, less body reconstruction and more language around, "man with vulva" for instance, zero rape, and higher quality, candid sex education. Will we be having sex in 50 years? Ehhhh? Hey future us I realize it's possible you may not be having sex, it's messy, it takes time, it's hard to earn, it transmits diseases, but I hope that whatever you replace it with gives you as much pleasure and vulnerability as sex does for us in 2013.

"Are you gonna keep answering questions?" 50 years? Maybe? Next week? Definitely.