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In which we discuss vital tips for moving back into your parents' home, living in harmony with your parents as an adult, and the surprising reason being in your parents' house can actually be awesome.

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Created, Written, and Hosted by:
Emma Mills & Mike Martin
(Mike is also a Young Adult novelist. His book, THE END GAMES, is available at all online booksellers, including Amazon:

Edited by:
Mike Martin

Executive Producers:
Hank & John Green
Emma Mills: Hey! Both of us moved back home with our families after graduation for a time and had an okay experience.

T. Michael Martin: Yeah.

EM: I had a great experience! Um, so if you're moving back home, we would like to share some tips with you from some experts. Yes- we consulted some literature and here's what we discovered.

TMM: Tip  number 1: set the tone of the relationship early.
Odds are, it's been a while since you've lived with your parents so they've changed, you've changed, and the type of relationship you're going to have has changed. So if you need more space than you did when you were younger, do things early on that will help you have that space. For instance, don't eat dinner with them every night. This will help make things smooth as time goes on and we like smooth.

EM: We love smooth. Except crunchy peanut butter I really like.

TMM: Get out.

EM: Oh my God!

Tip number 2: it's also helpful to set up house rules either before or right after you move in. Talk with your parents about what both parties should expect. Let's talk about guests, are you allowed to have them over on weekends, weeknights, with permission, without permission. Also in general, experts suggest taking on as many duties as you can, for instance doing your own laundry, maybe cook dinner for the family once in a while. It will help everyone from feeling like you're a kid again.

TMM: Let me ask you a question. Are there any good videos on the internet about how to do laundry and make dinner?

EM: I feel like there are!

TMM: And tip number three: talk about finances. Are you going to be paying utilities? Groceries? Some rent? It's a tough subject but it's a very important one, and you might think you're all on the same page (and maybe you are) but unless you talk about it it can lead to needless sore feelings.

EM: Tip number four: don't be a slobby slob! Remember that although your parents love you you're in their space so they probably don't love your dirty laundry hanging around, or your Sherlock DVDs or your backup set of Sherlock DVDs in case something happens to the first set of Sherlock DVDs. You get the point.

TMM: Tip number five: exit strategy! The length of your stay might be brief or not brief but either way it's usually a transitional period- the hope is that eventually you'll be able to make your own nest. And that can only happen if you're actively looking for work or saving a lot of your current income. In all likelihood you may have to take a non-ideal job for a while but there is a lot to recommend momentum.

EM: Tip number six: take care of yourself and try to get as much enjoyment out of this time as you can. It might be stressful so maybe take up exercise or a mindfulness practice. I think sometimes people construe having to move back home as having failed in some way, and I absolutely don't think that that's the case. Um, it's really tough out there right now, so if you have this time, make the most of it, and use it if you can to learn how to adult better! Your parents probably have a lot to say on that topic and there's a lot that you can learn from them at this time.

So that's it from us today. What are some of your tips for moving back home? If you have done so let us know in the comments section below. In the meantime we are happy to announce that we've come up with a world-altering catchphrase, and here it is: ...

TMM: I thought you were gonna say it.

EM: No, that was your job.