Hello and welcome to Wales! No actually, I think we're at King's Meadow, but, uh, we're in Wales metaphorically speaking because we're playing Cardiff. Cardiff City, down here in the championship, I think they're in the premier league in real life, but we're playing in the second tier of English football.

Wimbledon is in pretty good position. We're in the, uh, I think we're in the playoff spots. We just kinda need to stay there. Um, today we got a slightly new lineup. We're starting Solanke alongside Bald John Green. You can see right there, we're number five. So we are in the playoff spots, obviously there's a long way to go, still 36 games left in the season or something.

But, um, I'm feeling good about where we are, on the heels of a great victory against the franchise currently playing us trade Milton Keens. There's Mr. Managerianooo looking stalwart as always. As you can see here, um, Alphie Egan returns to the bench. We've got, uh, Vinny Thrill back in the lineup, and Solanke alongside Bald John Green.

That's really about wanting to rotate the John Greens enough that they get the rest that they need, but I'm also trying to find out is there a strike partnership other than John Green and John Green that will work.

'Cause I don't think that Grig and Solanke work, but maybe I can do Bald John Green and Solanke, and other John Green and Grig or something like that. I don't know. I don't have it figured out yet, but I figure this is a great game for a little bit of experimentation on the squad side.

I do have a problem to solve today. It comes from Claire who writes "I can't stop biting my fingernails no matter how hard I try. I'm a nurse, so this is a big problem. I'm biting on the various viruses and bacteria that I encounter everyday. I don't want MRSA." I can relate to this problem on multiple levels.

By the way, you can leave your problems in comments and I'll solve them. Claire, this is not an easy problem to solve though. Because, so, look, I'm not, I want to emphasize I'm not a psychologist. You shouldn't go to Fifa videos for tax advise, um, or medical advice. Those are the two things that I don't look for in professional Fifa.

Like when I'm watching a Fifa series, I never think, like, pff, I bet this guy could help me with my taxes. Um, same thing goes for medical advice. So my, ultimately I'm gonna solve your problem by recommending that since you conveniently work in a healthcare setting that you seek, um, some healthcare about this.

Uh oh. Everything worked out better than expected. Uh oh. No. No. Cancel! Cancel the celebration!  Hodor. He got down so fast. Son of Hodor, magnificent. Let's look at it again. Look at him. Look at him, Claire. Just down to the near post, he's not gonna give away a goal on his near post. He holds the door. 

So, what I've always been told by my psychologist and psychiatrist is, that was a foul. Are they gonna call it? No. How have I not given up a goal? What I've always been told, I committed a foul in the box but for some reason they didn't call it. I'm very grateful, and I wanna apologize for all the terrible things I've said about the refereeing in this game. It's actually excellent. 

What I've always been told by my psychologist and psychiatrist is that, like, as long as, like, a habit or a, even, no, we've given up the goal that we've been threatening to give up for the entire first 12 minutes of the game. Even, that was nobody's fault except for the overall poor defense.

If I, like, have a habit or, you know, even if it's a somewhat compulsive behavior, and it's not a problem, it's not a problem. Right? Like, if that makes sense that, like, biting my nails is not a problem unless and until it is a problem. People have, uh, people have habits. They have, you know, little ticks that help them calm themselves down.

And, you know, what I've been, what I've been told at least, is, like, you know, unless that stuff interferes with your life, or your quality of life, or keeps you from doing things you wanna do, it's okay.

Uh, but it does seem like it is interfering with your life and your quality of life, and you can't stop. Right? And I'm very familiar with that, I have OCD, and I'm very familiar with, like, engaging in behaviors that I know are not good for me and that I don't particularly want to be engaging in, but I can't stop. And, this has got to be a goal. Ugh, frustrating.

Wimbledon trying to get back in it but struggling so far. So, when I can't stop, and it starts to occupy a lot of my life either because I worry about it all the time or I'm worrying about something that's making me do the behavior, and the behavior itself has also become a problem, so now I've got the worry that's a problem and the behavior that I use to manage the worry that's a problem.

Like, there's nothing, that's when you have to say, like, I can't, this is not something I can figure out by myself, this is not a problem I can solve by myself. Um, and it may seem to you like a silly thing, it might seem embarrassing, it might seem, like, kinda shameful. But if you, you know, if you really, if you really need to stop doing anything, I think. Oh my god, I mean we're just getting our butts handed to us. If you need to stop doing anything, and you can't stop doing it then you need to ask for help.

Now, health, I'm not gonna be able to give you an honest read, Claire, on whether biting your nails is a health risk in a medical setting, because I'm a, you know, I'm a germaphobe. So, like, I'm a really bad candidate for, like, analyzing that question. Um, so I'm not even gonna pretend to be able to be, to be helpful about it.

Um, I feel like you're probably in a setting with lots of people who know lots more about that than I ever will, um, and who are able to look at actual data, um, objectively instead of through the lens of, you know, paralyzing fear and everything. So, I'm not gonna, I'm not gonna, I feel like, I feel like if I comment on that in any way it's only gonna be unhelpful and not head you toward the solving of the problem.

But the weird thing is, like, if, it may seem like a small thing to you, and by the way maybe it is a small thing and maybe when you, maybe when you actually think about it you think, like, oh, I left a comment on a FIFA video but, like, it's not that big of a deal to me. Get there, John Green. Ah, that was terrible. Why didn't you cut it back? We need to get him, we're gonna have to make some changes at half-time. That was not good, was not good, Claire. I want to apologize because I didn't mean to perform so poorly while answering your questions.

But what I'm gonna do is I'm gonna take off Solanke because he had a terrible half. I'm gonna bring on other John Green because they're teammates in life and in love, and maybe there can be some performance enhancements there. And I'm gonna, I like, I'm tempted to bring on Dean Parrett, but I'm gonna wait. Okay. Alright, now we're gonna resume the match having made two substitutions at half-time just like the pros do. And we're gonna see if we can make some progress here because that was embarrassing.

But my argument would just be that, you know, if there's, if there's a repetitive behavior or really anything in your life that you feel like you can't fix that is a problem for you, um, talk to someone. I know that, like, initial, we'll put some resources in the Doodblydoo by the way, you can. The thing that, the thing that I've done in the past and that I recommend is calling the SAMHSA hotline if you live in the US. It's a pretty, what, what substitutions are they suggesting? Well, I'll never know 'cause I hit the wrong button.

Uh, It's a good, it's a good way to just, like, find someone or even, like, find out who you need to talk to. Uh, anyway. I, I think it's worth talking to someone about it because one of the nice things about compulsive behaviors or obsessive worry or whatever, and I don't know that that's what you have, I'm just saying, speaking generally. One of the nice things about that is that it is pretty treatable. Like, a lot of, most mental illness is pretty treatable. It doesn't always happen right away or in the way that you would want, but it.

Get there, oh my god, how did you not score. How is it not 2 - 1. Um, it, you know and, like, it can take some time to figure out the right strategies. And, and a lot of the, like, treatment instruments are blunt and not as, uh, like, precise as hopefully they will be in the future or as we'd like them to be. But, that said, like, mental illness is treatable. And a vast majority of people, um, experience recovery.

Uh, may not last forever. But, it, the, the, you know, like, people talk a lot about hope as if it's, um. When it comes to mental illness, as, as if it's, as if there's, like, only barely cause for hope. Like, you have to hold on to hope. And I, obviously you do have to hold on to hope when you're in despair insofar as you can.

Uh, but, I, I think sometimes that, like, slightly mis-, uh, charact-. That was a foul, but, whatever, there was a foul in the first half that they didn't call, so. I think it slightly mischaracterizes things because, um, like, hope is the correct response. It's not like, it's not like a, you know, like a desperate pleading, um, pleading hope.

It's, like, it, it's true.

Because not, again, not immediately, not always within days, but, like, people almost always get better. Um, again, not forever. But, like, the notion that, uh, that mental illness is, uh, that you, like, can't have a good life and, and live with mental illness is just, is just incorrect.

So, I think, look, we're talking about, I, I don't wanna minimize this because it seem like it is a big issue in you life, and, like, it's an issue with your work. And I think that's important and I don't wanna minimize it. Um, but I don't think, I, I think talking to someone could be really helpful and also, like, like, a huge relief. Uh, because I don't, yeah.

Especially, especially if this is, like, one behavior among several. Uh, which is what it's like for me. Like, there's, like, one behavior maybe that I would go and see the doctor for. But then, like, once I went to the doctor, the doctor would be like you know, do you like these other, like, what about these other things that you do? Like, are you fond of those things? Like, are they hobbies? Um, and I would be like no, not really.

They're, like, things that I do to manage my, uh, you know, overwhelming sense of dread and nauseating obsessive fear that I-. And, how, how many hours a day do you spend on these hobbies? I don't know, like, 6, maybe, like, 6, 4 to 6, 10, depends on the day. And then, you know, then pretty soon you realize, like, oh, god, I have a problem. And then you realize, oh, like, this isn't hopeless, there are solutions to this problem.

Tell you what. So, that is, that is what I would encourage you to do. I'll tell you what there isn't a solution for right now.

Getting you butt whooped by Cardiff. Congratulation to Cardiff who came to South London with their Visit Malaysia shirts and absolutely humiliated us. Just, just pummeled us. Danny Ward, I should pick that guy up. Anyway, thanks for watching. Best wishes.